I know someone who haves a hard time dealing with anger management and I think alot of it has to do with his father's death when he was 14, alot of built up anger. He thinks that doing so is stupid and that it wont help.
2006-08-26 19:39:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You could suggest it to him, and also point out how damaging it to his relationships and in life, for him to be so angry. These outbursts will effect his relationships and his work.
Be a good friend and listen, however he does need professional counselling. If you are in a relationship with him and on the receiving end of these verbal outbursts they are damaging to you so do not put up with it.
Tell him he has to change his ways or leave. If he is violent towards you then you have to have to put a restraining order on him. There is no excuse for verbal abuse or violence. Violent men rarely change so don't make excuses for him and feel it is your fault, it's not. If you are subjected to his anger daily or on the receiving end it will chip away at your self esteem. Agressive angry men are manipulative and have a way of making you feel guilty as if it's your fault. You have to protect yourself. Your doctor or local library or social services dept. will have a list of counsellors or centres which deal with anger management. Good Luck.
2006-08-26 19:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have u watched the movie"ANGER MANAGEMENT"?
If u have, u would have some idea of what to do.
Try convincing him that his father would not like 2 see him in this way.
Explain 2 him that many have tried and had worked.And that if he wants 2 get over it quick and be a better person,he should try his best. I mean yoga is good but it is boring it is a No,No 4 him as he already has the concept that talking to a counselor or psychiatrist is stupid. He has 2 get over it sooner or later.Give your best shot since u really care 4 him.
2006-08-26 21:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by FreeHuGs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can talk until you are blue in the face and until the person themselves admits that they have a problem it's a no go. You can not change a person only the person themselves can change. Having said that I will say this, that it is a true friend who tries to help or get help for a person that they care about. And that is at least a starting point. Talk calmly, quietly and sincerely to the person and start off by saying, " I care about you and what is happening with you that is why I have made an appointment for you at such and such a place and I will be going there with you as a friend. And do it. Sometimes a fait acompli works. Good luck.
2006-08-26 19:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it seems like a "soft" approach isn't making much of a headway. Try the "hard" way, scold gently, not too harsh. Check constantly and remember to maintain the tone of your voice. Put it into his head that your not trying to help him (but in actual fact you are) and that you are concerned about the people around him. No one should have to endure his behavior. He has already lost his father, does he want to lose anyone else? His talking to a counselor or psychiatrist might help him, but ultimately he has to be the one to pull himself together.
2006-08-27 16:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can be quite hard. A person really must want to taalk to a therapist. Let's suppose that you could somehow "force" this person to go. He may have such a closed mind that it would do no good to go. This person must want to go and then he must open his mind to both express his feelings, and to listen to the advice which is given to him. A closed mind will not express inner feelings, and it will not listen to advice.
2006-08-26 20:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he truly feels happy getting this angry. Does he feel guilty afterwards? And doesnt he deserve to be as happy as he cna given that life is so short and precious? And does he consider himself a reasonably openminded person? If so, why not give therapy a try. If it doesnt help at all, tell him you will never bring it up again, so its a win-win situation for him
2006-08-26 20:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get supporting statistics or stories that it does help. And offer to accompany him to those sessions.
But don't pressurise him. His willingness to deal with the issue is the key to success.
2006-08-26 23:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human emotions are always hard to handle.
Perhaps you can show genuine concern for your friend and express your worry for him.
It will take a while but I believe persistence will pay off.
Besides, you can pray too.
2006-08-26 23:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by J S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru this with a family member. I wish I knew how to do this also. Men seem to think it's not manly to go for help. It could totally help their life. Hope all goes well for him.
2006-08-26 19:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To convince him (even though he don't believe in it) that the treatment is good for him, and him only. He needs to be convinced, for the treatment to be effective!
2006-08-27 14:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by TK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋