when me and my ex were together, i wanted to get pregnant...he still thinks it's too soon for us but he still wasn't careful...then we broke up and i didn't expect him to be the person he was...he got back with his ex and left me pregnant....he wants to fix things between us just for sake of the baby but i was so mad at him at that time coz of what he did.. that was five months ago...no calls, no support about this pregnancy whatsoever...what do u guys think?
2006-08-26 19:35:17 · 11 answers · asked by Irish C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You wanted a baby. Now you are getting one. You knew things were rocky between the two of you before you started sleeping together again. You knew he wasn't ready for a kid. So quit being surprised by his childish behavior. Have your child, get child support from him, and go on about your life.
2006-08-26 19:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is confusing... you say he wants to get back and fix things with you because of the baby... and yet it has been 5 months ago with no calls or support whatsoever? I have a feeling that you are the one who wants to get back together with him, and also you may have wanted to get pregnant in order to keep your ex - but it backfired on you and now you are pregnant but your ex wants nothing to do with you anyway. Your plan did not work, and now you are trying to come up with a way for you to get between his first "ex" since he realized he loves her still but you want him back. You knew there was trouble in the relationship and that you were breaking up, yet you still wanted to get pregnant. You knew you could very well get pregnant, yet you did not say anything about birth control when he "was not careful". What kind of person did you expect him to be? The one who feels that he has to stay in a terrible relationship because you wanted to get pregnant and did? You don't say he wanted it, only you did. I have a feeling that you will be raising this child on your own, perhaps with child support from him, but it will be on your shoulders to do the work - guess what - that is what happens in a case like this, he would not be happy with you "just for the sake of the baby" and you would both come to hate each other in the end if you did get back together. Best to make your own life with the child you wanted and accept that your ex will not be in the same home with you but will instead remain an ex. Too bad you did not think things through before you tried to keep someone who did not want to stay. I know this is harsh, but it is the norm in these situations.
2006-08-26 19:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, but I think your on your own with this pregnancy and the baby. Looks like you will be filing for child support and hope he pays!
I wouldn't trust any guy that breaks up with me to go back to his ex, and leave me pregnant!
I think you were in the wrong to get pregnant by him, when he thought it too soon for both of you. That should have been a 'Red Flag' right there!
You can't lay blame on him for not 'being careful', you should have taken precautions, also. Pregnancy is a 50/50 deal when consentual sex is involved.
All I can say is: Best of luck to you! And I hope your not a teen!
2006-08-26 20:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry it seems no guys are answering. You are better off without this one. Get legal support right away for you and your precious baby. Don't get together with him "for the baby".
2006-08-26 19:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have no responsibility but if you think of it he is the one missing out not you its gonna be hard if your doing it by yourself it will just make you a stronger person i'd say screw him he'll do it again he's the one missing out not you
2006-08-27 05:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes and everyone gets a chance to change in the present. What are you going to do?
2006-08-26 19:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT TAKES 2 TO HAVE A BABY.....HE'S JUST AS RESPONSIBLE AS YOU ARE.....GO THRU YOUR COUNTY DEPT OF SOCIAL SERVICES FOR CHILD SUPPORT THRU THE COURTS.
2006-08-27 01:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone- hes a loser and obviously doesnt want to be with you or your baby. he'll cause more hurt being around
2006-08-26 19:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's an asshole take him to court to get child support.
2006-08-26 19:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by ELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That right there is why you dont have sex until you are married.
2006-08-27 08:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by nsrush83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋