is it the life enriching experience that a lot of people speak of?
2006-08-26 19:33:59 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
its a big responsibility...you dont think about your self ..you always have to put the child first..even silly little things like gettin on a rollorcoaster..you think what if i die..who will look after my child...(well i do)..you cant go no where..cos youre too busy lookin after you child .than to have fun..but then there is the best part..of seein you babies first smile..its like you melt...and feedin the baby..first step..first tooth...there is a good side to becomin a parent adn a difficult side...(i wouldnt say bad cos ther never is a bad side)..unless of corse wen they a teenager and they give you hell..
just my opinion to your question...
2006-08-29 11:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by whistleblower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can tell you what it was like for me.... Imagine somebody taking hold of your big toes and then pulling your feet from under you.... lol. You wont ever get an idea until you become one yourself. It is a 24/7, life changing commitment. You dont understand their needs at first and they dont understand your need for hot coffee or for sleep. It is extremely difficult. BUT I must say, it gets easier with time and if your parents and your partners parents support you and helps you sometimes it will be ok. Just be brave enough to ask for help when you need it, it is very important, otherwise you might go insane. Going through that process is enriching eventually.... Because you get to know the little person you brought into this world and love them, like you have never loved anybody before in your life. :-)
2006-08-26 22:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best way I can describe it, is that you become a new person...the person that you will be for the rest of your life..as a parent. Your perspective and priorities change. The baby becomes a focus of your heart, your eye, your attention and concern. The reason I say for the rest of your life? The baby will grow through all time and one day be a grown man or woman...but for you, as the the parent, that individual will remain your cherished son or daughter, still holding the focus of your heart and concern. Nothing is stronger than a paternal or maternal love. It is instinctive. Laborotory studies have shown that a mother can differenciate the smell of her baby from that of other babies, under blindfolded conditions. Once you become a parent, you will no longer need ask your question, as you will understand what it feels like from the first moment that your look into your baby's eyes.
2006-08-26 20:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by jude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely is life altering... It is hard work and some people put more effort into parenting than others...But it becomes easier as they grow up and become independent...as long as you have an open, two way communication and a healthy life style. Family vacations , ski trips , camping...are all fun with kids. My children have helped me go grow up and to see and experience life as I would not have done if I had not had children. My life is definitely enriched....
2006-08-26 19:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Terrible and wonderful in equal measures! I had three and they are all wonderul, (now much older) but being a parent requires a lot of strength (mentally speaking), if you are weak it will be harder to cope! The way to decide is to ask yourself what life will be like if you NEVER have kids, if that outlook seems bleak, then you will feel that you have missed out by not having them.
WARNING: make sure you choose the right partner and that they want them too 100% or you will be asking for trouble!
2006-08-26 23:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by meoutthere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is scary and wonderful all at the same time. Heard the saying "Just when you thought you knew everything a lesson jumps at you to learn"? Your whole outlook on life and the world changes. For the better most of the time. Having my daughter was the best mess I have ever and will ever make in ly life. I love being a mom. It is not a job it's an adventure and worth every minute of it.
2006-08-26 19:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by melkhel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It changes all your persepectives, you are no longer the centre but the children are. Whatever you do you always consider your children first. There is an old African saying which goes like this 'a man who has no child has no roots', I guess it's true that lots of things become unimportant. Personally, I never thought in terms of the future before they were born, now I look towards it, and build it with them. But each parent sees their children differently. I really wanted mine, and I feel I have a responsibilty to take care of them and help them become happy individuals...
2006-08-26 19:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, everyone has the exact same experience when becoming a parent. It totally feels a certain way! It's like, "Oh, this is what everyone was talking about!" And, "Everyone is the same and feels the very same when somewhat similar events happen in their lives." Life is so simple!
2006-08-26 19:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Aught 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted the pregnancy, its like the peace corps "The hardest job you'll ever love." It will change you. And if you let it, make you into a better person, bring you great happiness and lots of memories. But change is never pain free. To watch your child be sick and not be able to help him, can be heart breaking, for example. Giving up your sleep for years, its not easy, etc... But so far, I can say, I have kept my eyes and ears very open and surprised to see I am learning from my 2 yr old son as much as he is learning from me!! ( More patience, listening, conflict resolution, giving a good example, teaching, nursing, better/healthier cook, child debvelopment,etc...)
2006-08-26 20:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does fulfill the cliche about being life altering. I was suprised however to find that it was notan instantaneous feeling. Perhaps I am alone on this but I did not feel that special bond right away. It was something that grew on me and keeps getting stronger everyday. I felt like a bad mother at first but now I know that it is a totally normal feeling. I felt unconditional love right away in the hospital but it took me a few weeks to get to the point of realizing how much my life had changed because of this little human (duh right!) you feel scared and anxious and happy and nervous and sad and terrified and content and most of all you feel whole. Like you finally realized your purpose. It is a wonderful feeling and I hope it is one you will enjoy one day.
2006-08-26 19:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by JLO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋