has anyone ever had their spouse cheated on them, and you take them back?

Answer 1

I think there are cases where it can be forgiven, and it really was only a one-time thing. I do think those cases are rare though, and most couples are never open and honest enough with each other to reach such a point of growth in the first place. (The point of growth being true understanding and forgiveness.) So with that said, I think that MOST of the time when someone takes back a cheater -- it's bad news. But not always. It still does depend to some extent on the people and the individual situation...

Answer 2

Yes. My ex-wife cheated on me and she begged me to take her back. At the time, I agreed because we agreed to go to counseling, but she put no effort into solving our problems, and we ended up divorcing. It's funny because I had ALWAYS said that if she cheated on me, the marriage would be over. But I find that MOST men who experience a cheating spouse who wants to work on the marriage end up accepting them back.

Answer 3

Not unless you want to share said "spouse" with every disease ridden, AIDS infected, slutmonster in town!

Any person who cheats is dishonest, ANY PERSON! They gave you their promise and they LIED! That means they will LIE again and again and again. In fact they will lie to you whenever it suits their fancy to do so.

You NEVER take such a person back! Listen closely, the world is simply FULL of decent, honest, people who will give you their word and KEEP IT, and they are all looking for people JUST LIKE THEM! You don't need to be burdened with a lying, slutty, disease carrier. EVER!

Answer 4

Hi Jake,
My husband of 15 years cheated on me three years ago. I left him,filled for divorce and months later in between divorce proceedings,decided to accept his pleas for forgiviness and took him back. Guess what? Less than three years later, he did it again! It is all over now. I did not fall for his apologies or beggings again! Believe me, if someone betrayed you once is because they have no respect for you, your children or themselves.
My imput: forgive the cheater, make peace with your bruised ego,do not be bitter and move on with your life! I did ! It hurts sometimes, but that is part of the healing process. Surround yourself with healthy and faithful friends, go counseling. Things will get better with time. Take good care of yourself!
El s.

Answer 5

I took back my fiance after she cheated on me, and it lasted another whole 3 months. It's almost impossible not to wonder where she is or who she is with every time she goes out after something like that has broken your trust. Anybody who cheats knows that they are taking the chance of losing their partner, it's one of the most selfish things a person can do.

Answer 6

I think it's possible to take someone back after they cheat on you, but in my case I just couldn't see it working out.

PS -- I will leave it to you to guess if I was the cheater, or the one cheated on. Either way, in my case it would be the end of the marriage.

Answer 7

It happened to me. My wife became involved with a few coworkers of hers. I tried to resolve the issues that caused the infidelity, but she has put little effort into it so I plan on divorcing her because I can never trust her again. Too many lies, too much deceit too much infidelity. I bet they think she's a real whore at her company.

Answer 8

No. why put yourself through it again. if they did cheat on you once before that should tell you how much they respect you in the first place. and if you took them back, that shows how much you respect yourself.

Answer 9

When the trust is gone, the marriage is gone.
CC

Answer 10

As long as she satisfies your emotional and physical needs its fine. If she doesnt, you can see someone else on the side.....