Is this wrong to name the baby this??

Question

Ok my husband had his x-girl pregnant like 10 years ago (she was 16 he was 19) when she went to have the baby the doctors broke the babys neck trying to remove it, the baby came out but died an hour later but the baby was named after him. The question is is it wrong to name my soon to be baby IF a boy after him???? He looks at it like "i want a LIVING baby named after me" and i do also but is this wrong?? me and her dont really get along because she is one of those people that feel she has to stay around the family because of that so called connection but its just in hopes of getting back with him!



P.s. If I/We do desided to do it , its not because of no one else but us!

When i say were doing it for us meaning its not something i am doing because we dont get along!!


And what might be some of the cons??

Answer 1

Legally and morally you can name your baby anything you wish. No reason to consider ex'es opinion.

Answer 2

It is not wrong to want to name your child after his father. What happened in the past is an entirely different situation, and has nothing to do with you and your baby in the present. If you both feel that you would like to have a child named after him (or you for that matter), then that is perfectly fine. It is a shame that the first baby died so horribly. I am sure that it has affected him in some way. You can name the new baby with his first name and a different middle name or an extra one if you want it to be a bit different, or you can give the baby his father's name as a middle name. Or just go with the same all the way through. His ex girlfriend has NOTHING to do with what this baby will be named, she has no rights to interfere either. By the way, George Foreman named ALL his children after him, even a girl with a feminine alternative to George. Do not be concerned about what anyone says, go with your and his hearts and gut feelings. Best wishes and congratulations!

Answer 3

That's a terrible story about the baby that died!

But I would not name the baby by the father's name. The first child is named by the father's name, and that should be honored.

Calling the child by the father's name would bring up memories all the time of the first child, making everyone feel traumatized. It would not be a good idea emotionally for anyone. There could also be some weird transference issues; like trying to make this child a replacement for the first child. It's creepy! Your child should have a unique name, and the dead child should be respected. Plus if your child goes to the dead child's grave, how would he feel having the same name as a dead child??? Don't do it!

Answer 4

I think it is OK to name your baby after the father because it is his and you have every right to. Not for nothing but what the hell is his ex still doing around??They would have had a connection if the baby lived but since it didn't tell her @ss to get to steppin!!!That is like if you have a miscarriage and you and the guy break up but you still hang around because you have a deceased child in common!!WTF???She is warped!!Who cares what the hell she thinks of you- YOU are his wife SHE is not!! It is not being spiteful to name your baby after his father if she don't like it oh well!! I am sorry for her loss but you need to tell her or have him tell her to go away. The baby didn't survive so there is no connection!! Just some advise I hope I didn't offend you by being so harsh on the other chic but she sounds like she is a #uckin lunatic!!I hope everything works out for you and good luck on your bundle of joy!!!

Answer 5

That's wrong and it's bad kharma. You'd be naming a baby after a baby that died. It's like you're replacing the dead baby. It's in poor taste. Despite not getting along with the other baby's mother, you have to ask yourself, were your positions reversed and you'd had a baby who had died, would you want her naming the new baby the same name? It's insensitive and wrong. Also, when this kid grows up, how do you think he'd feel about being given the name of his dead half-brother? It's creepy.

Answer 6

That is a very hard situation i wouldnt only because of what happened and just because you and the dx do not get along it may be very hurtful to her but then the husband also has a right as well i would maybe do the middle name as a first name and his first as a middle name i dont know thats really a tough one but onle you and your husband have to work on that

Answer 7

well, here's an example. I had a really great friend that took his life when we were in high school. I thought if I had a boy, I would name his middle name for my friend. I changed my mind soon after, though. There's too much pain attatched to it for so many people. And I thought my baby deserved their own identity, free of sadness when someone would hear it spoken. I had a girl by the way, and named her after a living relative.

Answer 8

truthfully if you both want to do it, but dont act like his the only jr. but in my opinion, take the father's name as a middle name for the father and in memory of the other child, this way no one feels hurt, but maybe flattered. however, since you dont know if the baby is a grl or a boy, wait, wait until u see your baby then decided what your baby is. A name means a lot. certain name create certain personas. make sure you have named the baby a name all three of you will not regret.

Ps Congrats!!!

Answer 9

Its difficult to be you as this situation relates to a time in your partners life when you were not around.
Be sensitive to the situation and if you really like the name consider using it as a middle name.

Its not usual to use a dead child's name twice for the same father as it may evoke sad memories in your partner.

I used the name as a middle name as a gentle memory but then used a grandads name for the beginning.

Try to remember that we all feel differently and you don't want to cause your baby an unnecessary stress when they learn about the past (not just yours but your partners too)

Good luck, best wishesx

Answer 10

I don't see anything wrong with it. My nephew died one week before we found out I was pregnant with our son and we asked my sister in law if it would be okay if we gave our son his middle name and she said yes. " He was 3 and drowned in a family pool so it was very hard on us all" So now our son's name is Tristan Brandon. Brandon after his cousin. I'm a firm believer when we are suppose to go we are going to go if we like it or not. And yes even though it hurts like hell 3 years later after brandon dying I believe it was his time to go. So there was a reason that baby died maybe to get that pyshco woman out of your husbands life.
Good luck with that.

Answer 11

well something like this happened with my friend. it hurt her like hell but then again her son died on the same day the other boy was born. If the first one was a jr, you can name ur son the third and when he gets older explain why. its ur husbands name, ur husbands child, basically ur husbands choice. if he has no problem with it and u dont either go for it. the only cons i can think of is his ex telling everyone u did it out of spite. but she'll just have to get over that.