christmas is right around tha corner and i want to get my boyfriend a christmas gift but he's not tha type of person tha except gifts at all. this will be our 1st chritmas together.so should i get him a gift but i know he will be mad and he might no except it. he is always doing 4 me and he stop me 4 doing 4 him b4 i even do it. should i give it a chance a get him a gift or not?
what kind of gift should i get him?
i just want to show him ii love him and i care 4 him
p.s. he wasn't going to except a birthday gift 4 me at all so i made him something nice and gave it to him 2 days before his bday.
i dont know what to do
2006-08-26 18:58:27 · 14 answers · asked by ~Tranell~ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I suppose it comes down to how well you understand your boyfirend's issue with gifts. Is it a matter of money? Would he just rather see you save your money for something he perceives more valuable? If so, then do something for hime or make something for him that shows you care and understand him. Perhaps write him a nice poem or frame a picture of the two of you yourself, decorating it with things that are special to the two of you.
Alternatively, it could be financial pressure on his part. Perhaps he is afraid to take gifts because he feels he does not have the means to give you what he thinks you deserve. In this case, take the pressure off of him and show that you are not materialistic. Make him a special dinner for Christmas or make extra time to be together and exchange thoughts and words rather than items. Maybe you could help him out with something he has wanted to do, but is not as good at as you - perhaps painting a room togteher, or something like that.
Another alternative could be commitment issues. Perhaps he sees that gifts symbolize some level of relationship commitment he is not ready for or afraid of based on past relationships. In this case, you just need to talk it out and see that your expectations of the relationship are the same as his.
Think about your boyfriend and try to piece together what the underlying issue is. Even better, talk about it openly and hionestly and I'm sure you'll find the right solution to your gift dilema.
2006-08-26 19:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Matthew L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something nice for him. Maybe make a personal dinner. Something special. Dress up, even if you are staying home.
Most men like a good home cooked meal.
And a small, sentimental token is not out of order. A book you know he will love. Something with meaning, but without a huge price tag.
2006-08-27 02:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by tigglys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always appreciate a home-made gift; perhaps he may too. You can cook something you know he enjoys; paint/draw a special place you both share and have it framed or make one yourself; if you can sew or do various types of crafts you could make a nice gift; if your musically talented you could write him a song and sing it to him; write him a poem. Hope this helps.
2006-08-27 15:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Carolanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
christmas isn't about presents but about Christ,so why not go and help out less fortunate together(live volunteer in a shelter to feed the homeless,go visit the sick,the abandoned).
Or donate to a legit charity/sponsor a third world child together through world vision,it only costs 35 dollars a month)
2006-08-27 02:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by I-C-U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bake him a cake/cookie. design ur own christmas card and give it to him. make something sentimental for him that is cheap for eg. weave him a woolen scarve. cook for him on christmas. or just simply spend the whole day with u. ur presence could be more worthy than any present he wants from u...relax man...christmas is still SOME TIME away...geez!
2006-08-27 10:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him something. And slide a little something extra into it if you want, that you bought. Get him exceited about Christmas and go for it!
2006-08-27 12:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by justmeinNC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him some sort of gift card.
CC
2006-08-27 02:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a picture of you and him together, along with some cookies that you made for him.
Peace.
2006-08-27 02:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by funigyrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that he'll be mad....r maybe yah he will....you got off cheap...I would be a good girlfriend and do what he says. Let him be the man if he wants to, right???
2006-08-27 02:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i love christmas
2006-08-27 04:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by St. John Bosco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋