my sister just got pregnant and she is only 15 i need some advise because idont know how to react plz help me?

Question

she has been dating this boy for about a year and i gues he wanted to presure her into it and they got pregnant and she is only 15 and her boyfriend is 18 and my family is in shock and doesnt know what to do and i'm very worried that she wont have a life anymore and i dont want that to happen so if u have any advice plz help plz

Answer 1

So she's pregnant, and she's 15. It doesn't mean her life will be FOREVER ruined. It just means that her life will be put on hold for a while. Make sure you guys support her through everything and just be there for her.

Answer 2

Give her the love she needs and remind her that You will be there for Her. She does not have to stay with that guy because of the baby. What she needs to do is look at what she wants in life and how the baby and the guy fit into the picture. You may have to calm down your parents and remind them God decides who gets pregnant. There is a reason it happened and the important thing is not to let it put anyone in the dumps. At 15 she is not ready for the responsibilities that go with being a parent. The decision between adaption, abortion or keeping the baby must really be investigated well before anything is done. Giving the baby up for adoption is not the end of the world and neither is being a single mother in today's society. She should not run into marriage because of her condition.

Answer 3

I dont know what your beliefs are, but i would strongly reccomend an abortion. Yes, your sister and her boyfriend might feel sad, but if she does have a baby, her life will become extremly more difficult than it should be. Your sister is 15, she is not at an age to take care of her self, much less a newborn baby. Having a baby will make it incredibly hard for her to finish high school or even go through college. A high school education and a college degree are ESSENTIAL to sucess in life. If your sister does choose to have a baby. Then give your sister all the help you can give here, she will need it.

Answer 4

It takes two to tango. She could've said no and didn't. She had sex, so as a young woman, she should have been responsible for her own birth control or if not, then not have sex.

That aside, you say you don't know how to react. There is nothing you can do but be supportive to your sister. Do not get into rows or pick sides in arguments about badmouthing the boyfriend. She won't have a life, she's created one and her life is forever changed. It will be different but not a death sentence. She will learn that doing adult things come with adult consequences. She cannot hang out. She needs to focus on finishing school and gaining skills to help get a decent paying job to help support herself and the child. And your parents need to figure out how old this boy is and his family and whether child support can be arranged -- through the courts. Also, full custody on behalf of the mother, which is your sister.

This has nothing to do with you. You can only be supportive of your sister because she is your sister and your family. And love your future niece or nephew, who did not ask to be born into this situation, if your sister so chooses to carry to term.

Answer 5

First of all, you should know that many young girls have babies at a young age. It doesn't always mean the end of the world. The best reaction you could have is to support her in any way possible. I would strongly suggest that your parents accompany her and her boyfriend (if he is still in the picture) to a class on what exactly to expect..and what all is involved with being a parent. She should be informed of as much information about all of her options. If she has been explained all parenting involves and all she may have to sacrifice..and still wants to keep the baby that is her right. And you as well as her parents should help her and back her in any way possible. If she decides that this is not the right time for her, then she should be educated as much as possible on the terms and procedures involved with adoption. And again the more support from her family the better. The key here is to show her as much support as possible...while making sure she knows as much as possible about her options at this point. And I mean information from a professional...not a kid at school or a biased member or friend of the family.

Answer 6

I think the first thing you need to think about is if she's in a position to raise this baby well. Is there anyone who can stay home and take of it while she finishes school? Is the father taking responsibility? Can she afford the baby? Things will definitely change, but as long as your family can handle this, everything should be fine. Now, especially is she's freaking out, you need to come to terms with this and be calm. At least one of you will be so. And when they see you reacting well and not panicking, it will hopefully help them calm down as well. Most importantly, though, support your sister, because I'm sure she'll need a lot of it. This means she'll have to grow up a lot faster, and she'll need all the help she can get.

Answer 7

This definitely isn't a good situation for your sister, but you should support her in whatever her decision is, and let her know that you're always going to be there for her, even if her boyfriend isn't (we all know that relationships don't always work out whether kids are involved or not). Just sit down and talk to your sister, and try not to lecture her...she just needs a friend right now. She will eventually figure out what she is going to do with her life, but with the family already being upset, she will be feeling really stressed out and just needs an open ear.

Answer 8

She is pretty young and itz going to be very difficult to deal with thiz problem in this young age besides you cant abort and itz violation but if the doctor advise that she is not physically fit enough to give birth to a baby then you can go ahead and listen to doctor to what to do...

Far more better option to get that boy marry your sister otherwise she'll be having very hard time once the baby is born but this is has nothing to do with the career but itz seems to me that she is not so matured or someone who knows what to do...Coz we can assume she is not good enough to think about her career and if she does she wont do this so better you tell her or try to convince her about life...If she listen to you and consider on her career with starting to work on it then she has a good future otherwise YOU CANT HELP HER...

She must know whatz important for her future so if she realize that then rest would be easy...But desperate truth is that no body realize this and they dont even try to understand this...Try to give some confidence..Ask her to consider on her education...Dont try to screw her more coz she must be already suffering for what she has done...

Answer 9

She is very vulnerable and needs to be comforted. Let her know that whatever she decides that you will be there for her. Most importantly of all don't judge her. There will be alot of that to go around. There are many organizations out there that can help her with child care and money (if needed). A baby is a gift not a punishment.

Answer 10

The best thing you can do is talk to your sister and let her know that you are there for her. She is probably in shock too. Let her know, that she has choices to make. She can have an abortion, she can give the baby up for adoption when it is born, or she can keep it. Just be there for her in her time of need. Good Luck!