i am 21yrs old merried with 2kids. we started trying for a 3rd baby last month and then when i missed my pd and thought i was preg my husband changed his mind about wanting another baby. i have a 21day cycle and i missed my pd this month but then 31days sents my last pd i started bleeding real heavy, all the test came back neg. i am trying to change my husbands mind about wanting a 3rd baby. what can i do or say that will make him want a 3rd baby?
2006-08-26 18:19:50 · 24 answers · asked by tgraves1985 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
my oldest is 3yrs old and we got merried when i was 17 do the math. my youngest is 1yrs old. and he says he dont want a 3rd one cause we wont have the money to get the stuff.but he has money to spend on himself. i thank that he dont want a 3rd one cause he dont want to give up his money he spends on himself and not on anyone else
2006-08-26 18:29:04 · update #1
he says he is never going to want a 3rd,and he wants to get himself fixed so he wont get me pregnet with a 3rd
2006-08-26 18:35:43 · update #2
You can't make him change his mind, but you can just tell him how much you want another baby. Why not ask him why he changed his mind? After you know why he doesn't want another child, then you can work on easing his mind about the issue he's having.
2006-08-26 18:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing right now, only I'm not married...lol. My fiance and I have 2 daughters together and I really want a third child. I don't want one right now but I would in a few years. All I can say is give it some time. I figure that when I'm done with school and making twice as much as I do now then he won't really have any objections to a third child. Hey our thid could be our little boy. Good luck and just give it time.
If he's worried about money, why not go back to school? You could go to a community college and have it paid for most likely. Once you are done then have your third child. Just because he has a little "extra" money with 2 kids doesn't mean you can afford 3 right now.
2006-08-27 01:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try to "change" his mind if I were you. I think if you get to forceful about it may make it worse. Personally, I would pray about it....your hubby's thoughts may start to change some. However, you guys may want to wait a little while because at only 21 you may want more down the road and so that 3rd one may be better delayed. I know that financial security for men is very important....if he doesn't feel that he can take care of his family it will make things really hard on him. I know I wanted to start having kids earlier myself I am 23 now and start TTC in a few months, but my hubby didn't feel that he had every financially secured yet and it really freaked him out, but now he has everything set and he is much more involved in the planning than he was before!
2006-08-27 09:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by lschuler22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband does not want a baby at this time, you should respect his position. I can imagine that it is pretty overwhelming to be responsible for a wife and 2 kids. A third one may seem like too much at this time.
2006-08-27 01:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to change his mind you may want to think of the pros of waiting to have a third. After all, you are still very young and you still have very young children. You may want to talk to your husband and get better answer from him. Tell him you want to understand why he does not want another child because you want to understand his reasoning. You are blessed with two children now so don't worry.
2006-08-27 01:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by ElectroMagneticLight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who doesn't want a kid trumps the one who does. People shouldn't have to become parents under protest. It adds strife to their relationship with that child and all other kids already in their lives. I hate to say "this too shall pass" but when it comes to baby urges, you have to be logical.
My husband and I would love more kids but we can't have them ourselves because of health conditions. We are considering adoption but have many medical expenses so that's not likely. If I were to go with my urge, we'd have kids with serious health issues. So we have to say no. It's not always what we want but as grown-ups and we have to do what we keep telling our kids--take care of what we NEED to take care of instead of catering to whims and wants.
2006-08-27 01:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by BeamMeUpMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing you need is a third baby. there are so many already. focus on making the lives of the two you have the best you can. you are 21. you need to have time not being pregnanyy
2006-08-27 01:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by mervelash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want a baby and believe that your husband would truly want it if you got pregnant just have an "accident". Worked for my sister-in-law. My brother swore he'd never have kids, now he's crazy in love with his little girl.
2006-08-27 01:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eek! do you really want to talk him into this, or couldn't you wait a little longer and keep him happy, too? he's probably feeling a bit crowded out....just a few years ago he was your only baby....give him some time without mentioning it again for a while. let it work on him.
2006-08-27 01:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U COULD TRY EXPLAINING TO HIM WHY ITS SO IMPORTANT TO U AND MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE ITS SOMETHING U WANT TO DO WITH HIM TO BE REALLY CLOSE TO HIM TELL HIM Y N THEN LET HIM HAVE A THINK ABOUT IT 4 A FEW DAYS THEN ASK AGAIN IF HE HAS THOUGHT ABOUT HAVEING ANOTHER ONE
2006-08-27 01:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by thinkbecthink69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋