so what do you do when the two people that you trusted with your life **** you over? my cousin (girl)went behind my back and met my boyfriend up to hang out, if it were just as friends i would be okay but they still deny it as if it never happened. the only 2 people that i would do anything for decided that it was okay to go against my trust and to test the limits. but now i know that even the best people can still let you down. so all i ask of you is to tell me what is the best thing i can do? and should i trust them again? should i break up with him?
2006-08-26 18:17:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would disown both...break up with your boyfriend and don't hang out with your cousin. Unless they are planning a surprise birthday party or the like, this just isn't acceptable. There are too many guys out there and too many girls for friends. I wouldn't trust them again, and I'm sorry this happened.
2006-08-26 18:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by AFL lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, chances are that if you know they were hanging out and especially behind your back...will they do it again.......or how long have they really been hanging out behind your back before you found out. sometimes you cant even trust family. if u want to give this guy another chance, thats your business, but just know that nothing will ever be the same and if things between you two were already crazy with things like jelousy and arguing, just think of how things are going to thicken if you decide to keep him around????
2006-08-27 01:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by amy z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't prove that they've done sthing. Sounds like it but don't get caught up on that.Sometimes people panic.They might've enjoyed eachothers company without sex or anything close to it but may think that you will freak out if you find out.Or ... something might've happen. See if you can come up with some facts.Otherwise breaking up just because so and so told you something...its stupied...unless you don't wanna be with your bf anymore.
2006-08-27 01:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question. What do I want? The answer has to be positive, not negative, (I want people to stop messing with me would be negative). Once you have come up with the things you want from your boyfriend and cousin, tell them straight up.
Like to your BF. I want you to honestly tell me if you are interested in my cousin. And to your cousin, I don't want you hanging out alone with my boyfriend. Please don't do that.
Don't argue with them about what they may or may not have done in the past, just try to get agreements. You will find that things are easier to sort out when you think that way.
2006-08-27 01:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm, sorry to say but the situation sounds very shady. If nothing was going on, your cousin and boyfriend should have said something about hanging out instead of sneaking. It is possible that they were just hanging out, but you should keep both of them on a VERY short leash and watch what's going on very carefully....................or you could take them on Maury for a lie detector test. I wish you the best, hon!
2006-08-27 01:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by laurenbrooks5873 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would because if he went behind ur back wit ur Cousin... who would be
next not to be mean or ne thing its up to u if u want to break up wit him ur the only one but if me yes i would break up wit him
2006-08-27 01:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend doesn't respect you...so dump him...and as for your cousin, you need to leave her be...she is someone I wouldn't trust ever again...family or whatever...
2006-08-27 01:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of both of them, w/o trust u have nothing.
2006-08-27 01:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him then move on.....and forget your cousin!never talk to her ever again!
2006-08-27 01:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY shady- I'd break up w/ him for sure & keep her at "arms length"
2006-08-27 01:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋