Spoiled babY?

Question

I always hear people saying that babys can't be spoiled because they are to young and they don't know what being spoiled is etc.
How old are babys/kids when they can be called spoiled...just wondering what your opinions are...please no mean or smart a$$ answers.

Answer 1

well i think kids can be spoiled at ANY age.. yes even new borns.. i have two kids.. my oldest.. i picked up i EVERY time she cried.. i mean i never let her go more then a couple of second crying.. and she go t use to it.. to this day she is very CLINGY... my youngest... well since i was busier, i wasnt able to pick him up the second he cryed and is alot more independent now and was less needy as a baby.. i mean i always picked him up for feedings and spend plenty of time with him but since i had another kid to take care of i was not able to hold himm every secondof every day.. and it makes a world of differnce!!!
Now i am also a stay at home mom.. and alwys have been... so just becareful don't pick him/her up all the time .. unless she really needs you

Answer 2

Babies need to be cared for, plain and simple right? When a baby cries it NEEDS something. Be it food, a diaper, or just to be held. If a person doesn't take care of these basic needs the baby will become hardwired to be untrusting and wary. Now, I have a five year old, when he was a baby I literally held him all the time. Seriously, even when he would nap i would carry him around in a front carrier to get my stuff done. He still likes to be held from time to time and was always a cuddly baby. I think that if I had taught him to sleep alone, or try to sooth himself a little better that maye when he hit age 2 he wouldn't have been so clingy, but the way i look at it is our babies are only small for a while, and our children are eventually going to grow up. If we can hold them and love on them for as long as they let us it is good for our very souls. Babies can't be spoiled from having their physical needs met, nor can any child of any age. A 1 year old or younger however can be taught to whine for candy and toys every single time you go to the store.

Answer 3

What you have heard is right. Babies cannot be spoiled. I have a master's degree in clinical psychology and had to learn all about this in school. Plus, I am a mom. The first three months, babies have no concept of cause and effect, therefore they don't understand that if I cry, mommy will do x. They also have no idea that they are separate from their mother's until around 6 or 7 months! This is when separation anxiety begins. Thus, since they don't even know they are separate, they can't understand how to manipulate you! Experts that believe in letting your baby cry it out (though MANY think it is psychologically damaging) suggest that you never let a baby cry it out before 6-7 months of age. If you let a baby cry before this time, it can disrupt their attachment, which could damage their relationship with their parents and relationships with all others around them for the rest of their lives. People say "no baby ever died from crying" and that is just NOT true. It is called "failure to thrive" and many babies who are neglected die from it. When babies are left to cry for long periods of time it alters them neurochemically, which causes them to have stunted physical, psychological, and emotional growth. They literally waste away and can die. Experts state that the best time to begin breaking certain habits is between 7 and 9 months. At this point, the baby's attachment is well enough established and the bad habits are not so deeply engrained. It is okay at this time to let a baby cry for SHORT periods of time and to not give in to their every whim. However, you should always meet their NEEDS when you can. (And babies need to be held, comforted, etc...though not continually) Babies under the age of one year should NEVER be punished, spoken to harshly, spanked, etc. They are TOO young to learn through discipline. They dont have the understanding to know why they are being treated that way. They cannot make the association between their actions and their parent's negative reaction. They just see mommy being hurtful to them and they get confused, scared, and hurt because they dont know why. Different babies are different. However, usually between a year and 18 months children begin to understand certain concepts and can begin to understand that mommy may not want them doing certain things. This is the time to train them GENTLY to not do those things. I hope I answered your question!

Answer 4

well that depends on what you mean by spoiled. I believe it can start almost right from the beggining. I have a 1.5 and a 2.5 yr old. And from day one i knew my second was going to be a needy child if i let him. So, from probably a month old. I never picked him up EVERYTIME he cried. If he had been fed, and changed etc.... i let him cry it out. I feared if i picked him up everytime he whined, i would be setting myself up for major problems as he got older....i didnt want a needy, spoiled child. Dont get me wrong I love my children, very much, and i do cuddle and snuggle them, but i refuse to give into the whine. That is my definition of spoiled. If your definition is spoiled with clothes, and toys... i dont think they truly get it until 4 or 5.... but i think if you start young, they will end up being set to a certainstandard of living that may set you up for some serious struggles in the long run. Answer your question?

Answer 5

My second daughter is 8 months old. She will only let ME hold her. No one can even speak to her without her crying. Sears Portraits yesterday were a disaster. I can walk out of the room and she pitches a fit! I do not know how I spoiled her but I did. I do not think that the parent does it alone, I think it depends on the child. Some children are loners and independent like my 21 month old. I do not believe there is a particular age.

Answer 6

You can't spoil a baby. They are just a bundle of needs and they only know that they need something and crying is the only way they have to communicate.

It has been demonstrated that babies that have been left to cry it out actually give the same wavelengths off that babies in pain have.

Your baby cries becase it NEEDS something. Even if it is just to be held. We are not programmed as infants to be alone.

Answer 7

They can be spoiled from the day they're born. Just because they don't know the literal meaning of the word "spoiled" doesn't mean they don't quickly learn what spoiling is all about.

Answer 8

You can never spoil a baby! As they get older, yes, you can spoil them however there is a difference between being spoiled and being a spoiled brat! Use your disgression at that age but enjoy your baby as much as you want for as long as you want!

Answer 9

I've always said that it's not an age thing as much as it's a what you're "giving" them thing. If a child cries, they need something, you give them attention, love, etc. If a child cries and you buy them a toy or a candy, that is spoiling. I don't think that love, hugs and attention equals spoiling. Toys, candy and UN-needed things are what spoil children.

Answer 10

Babies can be spoiled at anytime. The way you spoil a baby is by picking it up every single time it cries. If you do that, then you will have a HUGE problem on your hands. That child will scream and cry until he/she is picked up.

If a baby cries, sometimes it's best to leave them cry unless they are screaming bloody murder or they haven't eaten. Make sure they don't need a diaper change or anything and then once you check on them, then leave them be for a while

Answer 11

I personally think about a year old is when you can start to spoil a baby they by then know which buttons to push if you let them. My little guy sure as heck know how to....LOL but that's okay he's a pretty good kid.