Over the summer break, this guy that i liked had sent me this quiz, at first the quiz was simple like do you like me? or would you go out with me? but then the questions got sexual...i went to my friends for help and they said to tell him how i felt..so i did, well the part about me liking him..well as time went on, he took the quiz and said yes to all the sexual questions...keep in mind we're both 14...then he asked me if i would do it...i wasnt...but we kept talking on the phone and i kept talking to him because i wanted to know why he wanted me to be his first (his motives)when he didnt like me the way i did him, and he knows there are many other girls who like him, he said that I was the only girl from school or anywhere that he trusted, and then he said that he wanted to do it with a girl who liked him for more than the fact that he was "good looking", and everything was fine, until he asked me again, and i said i wasnt going to..because he wanted it as "friends with benifits" and not only
2006-08-26 17:29:55 · 22 answers · asked by Becky♥ 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
am i not up for that, im not ready for sex, or taking the risk of a baby, well school started last week , him and his friend came up to my friends and he was talking to them while i was there, COMPLETELY ignoring me, he didnt make eye contact with me, but i couldnt even make eye contact with him, i have 2 courses with him, and he has avoided me ALL week, and he hasnt said ONE word to me...it hurts because even though i feel he was trying to use me, part of me still likes him, because i liked him for so long...there were also things i want to know...so yesterday i sent him a message saying "hey, ok, um is it just me or has it been awkward beetween us??? i mean weve been avoiding eachother all week, and i just wanted to know what is it?" he read the message but he didnt write back...what should i do? and do you have any reason why hes acting this way???...he hasnt deleted me from his friends list and two weeks after or b4 skool he wrote me and we had a normal conversation...but now its
2006-08-26 17:31:24 · update #1
just not the same, please help! srry for posting it in this section...
2006-08-26 17:32:07 · update #2
Sweetie that guy was just trying to get in your pants. I'm 18 and I remember going through similar situations I know you feel like the world is crashing down around you, but trust me you will be ok let him act stupid all he wants. I know you might feel like he is cute and everything, but look around one day at school and you'll see how many cute guys are walking around. Besides right now focus on having girlfriends and doing well in school. You have plenty of time to have a boyfriend. Trust me I know I've been in a relationship with the same guy for 3 years and as much as I love him I sometimes wish I could just hangout with the girls like I used to. I still can but it's not the same. I mean simple things like walking around the mall and talking about how cute that guy is that just walked by. You can't do that anymore because you have a boyfriend and you feel guilty. So Forget about him you think he is cute now but look around you'll see more cute guys at school and even if you don't have fun with friends and do well in school. I'm just happy that you didn't do something with this guy that you will regret in the future because my bet is that if he is treating you like this because you didn't have sex or whatever then he is not a guy that is worth having you and would probably ended up dumping you even if you did have sex.
2006-08-26 17:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by kiki87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thought he could use you for sex and now that he knows he can't he's feeling mad but he'll get over it. You did the right thing by saying no. I think you should just move on from him because a true friend wouldn't have tried to use you for sex in the first place. Let him act like an immature baby at school, just go on about your business.
2006-08-26 17:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't have sex with him just because you have a crush on him. It hurts to be rejected I know but just think how much more it would hurt to be rejected AFTER you have slept with him. And later when people ask you who your first time was - you will regret it for the rest of your life!! Wait until you are at LEAST 17 and been with a guy for a long time. And of course ALWAYS use a condom PLUS birth control if possible
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2006-08-26 17:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even care. This guy is a jerk and if you're only 14 then it doesn't matter. You might like him but its meaningless, he is going to grow up and be a pain in the butt if all he wants at age 14 is to use girls like you to get sex. Thats pathetic, just move on and find some really awesome guy who wont push you to bad things.
2006-08-26 17:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yo the kid is a jerk for askin u to do somthin like that in the first place. and ya u will still have feeling for him u liked him for awhile and hes ur friend but u need to just find someone else to go out with its not the end of the world u have a long life ahead of u and u should consider ur options
and you r to young but if it gets to that point with some one use protection
2006-08-26 17:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Stan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ran out of room.
You didn't sleep with him, right? He wants to know what it is like because he hasn't before and he has a shot at you having sex with him and so he's hoping he can talk you into it.
You might come across a lot of lying men in your life (unless you're lucky) so, you'd best start looking out for yourself now in this department.
Best wishes.
2006-08-26 17:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok girl you need real advice from a girl that has already been ther & done that. Ok you shouidnt like a guy just because of his looks his personality plays a big role & the way he treats girls does to. he's just a horny bastered tring to **** a smart girl well, if you would have let him I bet he still would have not talk to u so chose the right guy to be your first!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ok well if you need any more advice just email me at ashwowly@yahoo.com oh its ashley
2006-08-26 17:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the mature decision. He did not. He lost a friend because of his immaturity, and thinking with another kind of head. If that's all he wants from you then you should get over him, and find another guy who respects you and what you want.
2006-08-26 17:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK 1st of all your 14 hormones are raging!! he will try to get in your pants and if u let him he will be even worse to u probly! dont give in to peer pressure wait and just ignore him let him come to u and say "why have u not been talking to me?" they hate to be ignored!!!and love to be in control! so u take control of this situation and be the bigger person to stop the games!!!
2006-08-26 17:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by razorbackgirl95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's acting "shady" because he couldn't get what he wanted, i wouldn't worry about it to much it's his loss not yours and at least you know now what he was in it for. Your only 14 you shouldn't be worrying about an a s shole like him! you can do much better hun!! He's just salty thats all!
2006-08-26 18:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋