I have a guy friend who is gay, and i kinda had a crush on him and he found out, but he said we could be friends( he's really cool about this!) so in a text message I invited him to a concert I am going to but he had other plans, so anyway, I can handle that.. so then I asked him if he could help me out because i wanted to invite him to a movie sometime, but I wasn't quite sure how to do it( I have never invited a guy out, especially a gay guy) I didn't know how he would take it.. he told me not to be nervous, because it's not like I am asking him out on a date, he is gay after all!! does this mean he wants me to ask him out(as friends, of course)?? Or will he just have an excuse every time??
2006-08-26 16:55:50 · 15 answers · asked by confusedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Gracious, Girl!
Forget about the crush already. It's not an important part of this question anyhow, is it?
Just go out as friends. He's a girl friend and that's how it's gonna be. Have fun!
I really don't think he's blowing you off. Gay guys are normally too good natured for that.
2006-08-26 17:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay guys typically love to have female friends and do things with them. I'm not trying to offend anyone, but it is a matter of psychology. I'll assume you can read between the lines on that bit.
So no, I wouldn't worry about it at all. Invite him to as many things as you like. However, when you have a boyfriend beware that there is a lot of ancedotal, although not scientific, evidence that both the gay friend and the boyfriend will dislike each other and compete for your attention. However, there are many exceptions of course.
2006-08-27 00:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can tell you still have feelings for him (as you clearly do), he may respectfully decline to keep from hurting your feelings. Once he sees that you really just think he's a cool guy, despite his sexual orientation, he'll probably hang out with you again. And inviting a guy friend to the movies is the exact same as inviting a girl, come on!
2006-08-26 23:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Gabe R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as YOU want to call him just ask a direct question!If he wants to have an excuse that is his problem, give it a try once so that you know that you have tried. If it does not work second time just move on. There are sooooo many guys out there & good thing is that most of them are not gay!!!
2006-08-27 00:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by DKS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha. a long long long time ago i had a crush on this guy..he was 5 yrs older than me so it was nothing big....it was only this y ri ofund out that he was gay....i was sooo shocked that he was gay...than i took a better look at him...i wasnt surprised.....and asking "gay" guys to do sumthin is sooo much easier...cause u dont have to worry about half the stuff with straight guyys.....if ur new to this gay friend thing...then you'll get used to it...i did.
2006-08-27 00:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say dump this relationship--and quick. I went through the same thing and the jerk just kept putting me off. I didn't want anything more than being friends, but he thought I did. Ended up being a huge waste of time and feelings were severely hurt.
2006-08-26 23:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by ikikochan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have many gay guy friends and let me tell you sometimes there the best friends to have in life , just say hey lets go hang out , how about we go see a flick, ask just like you would ask one of your girlfriends.trust me.it will be fine.take care.
2006-08-26 23:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by lmcm1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are stressing way too much... you have to look at him as though he were one of your (girl)friends. not nervously, like hes a typical guy. im sure if you mellow out, he'll hang out; but, if he senses some weird tension in you, he'll probably stay away. he's gay, he'll never be into you, so if thats your intention, you're wasting your time...
2006-08-27 00:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crushes shouldn't be this traumatic. If you're going to be friends, be friends, but move on to someone else.
2006-08-26 23:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Pearlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he told you to not be nervous he gave you the answer to your question, dear........Go ahead and ask away, I'm sure you'll have a great time!!!!!!!
2006-08-26 23:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋