HE DOESN'T CHEAT BUT OUR SEX LIFE ISN'T SPICY ANY MORE IT'S THE SAME THING DAY AFTER DAY AND I DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM HOW CAN I PUT SOME SPICE BACK INTO OUR LOVE LIFE WITHOUT HIM THINKING I'M CHEATING ON HIM.
2006-08-26 16:35:57 · 12 answers · asked by KEY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats because he doesn't, when you first met you went through the infatuation stage, during which brain chemicals and hormones go nuts....they wear off though, sounds like you got married while still in that stage and that rarely works, once the chemical and infatuation wear off what is left is what will last forever.
2006-08-26 16:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different stages for different ages. All relationships go in this direction, because it is impossible to prevent the natural changes from infatuation /crazy love to the comfort zone of committment /friendship. If you are always trusting of each other, honor your friendship, maintain your sense of humor and have a very special date at least once a month, you will make it. But that is only after you understand and accept that you are now in normal and regular marriage mode.
2006-08-27 01:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by meldorhan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think whats happened to you two is you both have gotten so comfortable with each other that maybe your taking each other for granted. Maybe suggest to him that you both need some marriage counseling. Maybe tell your husband that he still needs to treat you like he was courting you. you can't spend the rest of your life with him feeling the way you do. Maybe go out and get your hair done a dfferent way. Go rent some porno flicks. That alwaqys seems to do it for me and my old man. Good Luck
2006-08-27 00:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the routine out of your everyday life. For example just try to get out of town for the weekend with out having to plan it. Instead of coming home go the movies on a Tuesday. Try giving him a massage, you know with all the trimmings...oil, soft music playing in the background, sensual massage that really works for us. Try to hold off as much as you can.
2006-08-26 23:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for this to happen. You're both comfortable with each other now. Just remember what you two used to do before, what made it so exciting and incorporate that back into your married life. Or, for even better results, try something you both haven't done before. Works for me and hubby.
2006-08-26 23:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband doesn't love you the way he did 2 years ago. he's comfortable now. he loves you and knows that you love him. there's no worries. if he were worried, he'd still be trying diffrent things. as long as he's comfortable, it's great!!! if you want to spice it up, start something and take it to new levels yourself. don't just wait for him to make the first move. he will know you want it and i don't know of any guy who won't take it.
2006-08-26 23:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many people think you are suppose to be in this lustful state forever. No. Relationships go through different cycles of love. It grows- hopefully. That lusty state brought you together, now hopefully your relationship is based on more than that. it's good to explore
2006-08-26 23:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by To Be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not married but i live with a guy for two years just like being married i feel the same way. i wish i knew too. I think we just get too comfortable.
2006-08-26 23:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men love sexy clothing in the bedroom . Get your self a collection of thongs going on . And don't forget to shave it nice and sleek . He will love you for it !
2006-08-27 00:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Janey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can spice your sex life using toys ... or you can try role playing men loves that ... you can spank him a little .. dress sexy for him .. just do diferent stuff ... i am very sure that everything will change .....
2006-08-26 23:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by Infernal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋