my child support Paid with my income taxes every year,why do I get harassed by his ex?

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my child support Paid with my income taxes every year,why do I get harassed by his ex?
But my husband ex calls harrasing us.Telling us to pay her. this is not right we pay it to child support right? Is there any thing we can do to make her quit? She insults us and threats. She live's in TX and we live in
CAl.There daughter is now 21 and she the ex didn't even let us know were they lived .I found his daughter after 17 years and she came and live with us.We all enjoyed her being ,my husband and his daughter now have a father And daughter relastionship. we all re great except for the ex who won't leave us alone.My husband 's daughter went back to TX with Mom ,but moved out of her moms because her mom won't stop putting down the dad she just meant.
And he is no dead beat dad. he's daughter thinks he's great and loves him.

Firr Is this is for u and to anyone else that that thinks he's wrong. God knows the truth. So here it is for u all , This lady my husband was never married to,but he knows its his daughter. When he was working weeks at a time out of town,she was drinking and sleeping with he's brother. I know this because his brother and him still are brothers. And when my husband came home early because the job ended,well you get it. Any was my husband left stayed at a motel. Sleep and at 4am when he went home she and evrything but the curtuns where gone. His daughter was4 than.

To John F, I think your right very right. She sure hated it bcause her daughter which is my step daughter was living with us. And that me and my stepdaughter got along like mother and daughter. And the way is he just started paying, no he Been paying for years. But when he got layed off he got behind. But thats all taken care of. Through are taxes.

Answer 1

I know, I know... it's a pain. However, the court order is likely such that child support is SUPPOSED to be paid on a monthly basis and instead you're waiting until tax refund time (once a year) to pay her anything. Like it or not, hubby had a child and should have been helping support that child all those years and, apparently, didn't. Therefore, he has to refund his ex-wife for all those years she carried the financial burden alone. He's lucky he's not in jail.

Answer 2

Generally speaking a "child" reaches majority in the eyes of the law at 18 and at that time child support is no longer payable by law.
To make sure of the status of the child support, your Husband should consult the court order obtained when he divorced.
The ex may have had reason to complain previously as child support is usually payable every month, but now your husband is no longer legally obligated to pay any support for the daughter. Next time the ex calls tell her to go fly a kite.

Answer 3

First of all, if his daughter is 21, he is not responsible for child support on her. Does he have any other children through his ex? If not, then his ex has no claim and no case, as long as his child support amount is paid and all arrears are paid.

As far as her treats and harassments, record the phone calls. All you have to do is notify her that the call is recorded, regardless of whether or not she consents to it. Use this as evidence of harassment. Next get an attorney and press charges of harassment, mental and emotional abuse, and a restraining order. This will teach his ex to bite her tongue a little bit!!!!

Answer 4

It's called Parental Alienation Syndrome, and attempted or real, it happens a whole lot more than you think. You get harassed because the ex has a whole lot of issues that need to be examined. She doesn't have her ex, and she damn well doesn't want anybody else to have him But my question is, why is she harassing you about CS now when the kid is 21?

Answer 5

If the IRS is pulling the child support from your tax return, your husband is truly a dead beat dad as that is the last resort. Basically, if they can't get money out of you throughout the year or you owe back support, they pull it from the taxes. This makes me believe that their is a possibility that maybe the "ex" has something to gripe about. Do yourself a favor and tell your husband to PAY HIS DAMN SUPPORT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Go to the police and get them to get a restraing order against her.
If teh daughter is 21 then she can see her father anytime she wants to and the mother can;t do anything about it.

Also if she is 21 your husband should not be paying child support.

Answer 7

I'd say get an answering machine to answer and record her calls. Keep the messages, take her to court and get a restraining order. She'll look like the lunatic since she is the one ranting and raving.

This happened with my in-laws. My mom in laws "tactics" backfired on her! The judge was so shocked at her recorded tyrads that the back due child support (granted, there wasn't much) was cancelled and she was told to grow up!

Answer 8

since his kid is 21 unless she is in college payments should have stopped ar 18.it you don't pay weekly or monthly you are just paying back paments.find out if he eveb owes anymore money.if not then gey in on paper and change your number.call the irs they will know if he is paid up/

Answer 9

Get an unlisted phone number.

Answer 10

Give her what she wants and she will go away. She did her job, what is owed couldn't ever be done for less. Relist your phone number.