I dont feel emotionally attatched to any of my 'good friends' that I hang out with a lot, and I dont really care if I dont talk to them for a while. sometimes i just want them to leave me alone! whats wrong with me?
2006-08-26 16:19:33 · 19 answers · asked by 128333 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe you just need better friends.
2006-08-26 16:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, you are not. Good friends are unconditional. When you need them, they are there. Sometimes we do not care about them because we know that they are waiting for us to contact them. If you want them leave you alone, maybe you are depressed; or you are not agreed with them about something that is going on; or you do not share the same interest that they have. It could be a good idea if you take some time and think about why they are your friends. Make a list of good things that you have in common and things that you do not like. Also, remember that good friends are just a few. No everybody can be a good friend. If you read the Bible, try Ecclesiastes 6, 6-17. Also, you can learn how to be a good friend. Please, do not think about yourself in a bad way. Sometimes, we just need to be alone. Good luck!
2006-08-26 23:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by inyamaech 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a bad friend for being like that but you are just being yourself. May be, you are not sociable and you prefer being quiet and alone most of the time which is a normal attitude of women. Emotional attachment is not a forced feeling, it just comes and goes without our being aware of it. Sometimes, you would feel that you like a friend so much only to find yourself on the next day having no feeling for him or her at all. This is what we call mood.
And the deeper your relationship withyour friends is, the more emotionally attached you will be to them. Perhaps, you still lack that deep kind of relationship with them that you all find them as your friends in words. See their good points and attitudes. Appreciate their good deeds to you. Feel how important you are to them. And give them back the love that they give you. Always remember that true friends are very important in our lives because they will stick with us through the good and the bad times.
2006-08-26 23:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is completely normal, I mean I am a guy and sometimes I feel like I need some alone time away from my girlfriend and friends. It's just if you spend alot of time, I mean it doesn't have to be alot of time, just enough to make you want to be along for a little while. It's completely normal. Say, sometimes when I don't want to talk to my friends I talk to someone or anyone else that I can so if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here at agent_chip007@yahoo.com now don't get me wrong or anything I'm not using this question just to talk to someone it's just I know what your talking about and I figured I'd help. So tata for now!
2006-08-26 23:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by agent_chip007 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you just need more personal space than others. I'm kind of like that. And when I have tried to be friends with or date really really clingy needy types who think they can't manage without people holding their hand every minute...I get a little irritated.
It's not that I don't care, I do care. I just need some time and space to myself. When I am with someone I give them alot of my focus and attention, I am never "half there" with you. So I need to break away to think about other things, have time to think and reflect, have a moment to think about my own needs or prioritize tasks and goals, take a walk by myself, etc. Some of us just need a little more personal space and alone time.
2006-08-26 23:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothings wrong with you, you just prefere to be alone more often than being around people all the time....some people just dont get that attatched to friends, so youre not alone
2006-08-26 23:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by carrie g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, guess what? I sometimes feels that way too. It means that maybe you have spent WAY too much time with your friends. Talk to your friends, tell them how you feel, and work it out. Let them know that you need some space. :-)
2006-08-26 23:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing's wrong.sounds to me like you are independent. A good friend is someone who is there when they are needed. I have a friend who I don't talk to for months at a time but if I needed her she would be there and vice versa
2006-08-26 23:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by barnett95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all feel like that some times.
But maybe if you don't have as much in common with your current friends as you think and should expand your circle of friends.
2006-08-26 23:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too cool for school!!! Actually, I think its totally normal. You'll bond with a few of them at one point or another and some of the others will fade away...Are you a girl or guy and how old???that would expalain a little more...
2006-08-26 23:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by phillyphan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not really you its just you are the type of person who likes to spend time with yourself im kinda like that but i have to talk to my friends at least once a week otherwide i feel i don't know who they are
2006-08-26 23:24:00 · answer #11 · answered by ~Katie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋