I've been with him for 2 years almost and my parents haven't been very supportive nor do they try to understand me. Then they just suddenly decided that they don't like my boyfriend and they're telling me to break up with him for no reason. What should I do to talk to them and be mature about it? I've made my stand that I'm not doing anything because they don't even have a reason.
2006-08-26 16:12:56 · 20 answers · asked by kpmajesty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe your parents know something you don't. Talk to your parents. I'm sure they can enlighten you. There's no such thing as "No reason". There is a reason. You need to find out what it is.
2006-08-26 16:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Dean B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, or a teenager so this is just my thoughts from somewhere in the middle...lol
Your parents love and worry about you. Something about this relationship (or the boy) scares them. As far as "no reason" there is in fact a reason. If you want to get a reason, you have to approach them like an adult. Tell them that you know they love you and worry about your future and safety, but would like the respect of knowing why they feel you should not see him anymore. Tell them you are totally ready for an honest answer (and this means staying calm the whole time!). Once you get an answer maybe you will better be able to work with them on solving the issue.
I dont know your age, but at this point after two years it also seems like they should give YOU a tad of respect in your choice. Assuming nothing massive has gone wrong! Ask them if they are willing to do that, and in what way you can work on both you and your boyfriend gaining their trust.
2006-08-26 16:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by my1215boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong. Your parents have their reasons. Make sure you're calm and level headed and then have a sit down talk with them. I am sure your parents love you and want the best for you. It is hard to know your situation, but if you are a minor it makes it very hard for you. The best advice I can give you is to be patient. My parents kept me away from a relationship, but they could only do so til I was 18. When I went away to college we got back in touch, and stayed friends. After less than two years of dating we were happily married. We now have a baby and we're happier than ever.
But I couldn't have done it if I didn't respect my parents. It was hard. So many times I wanted to go behind their backs and do whatever. But I knew they had their reasons, even though I didn't know what they were. I'm glad, looking back. If I pursued the relationship the way it was at that age, so many things could have gone wrong. I may have become pregnant, we might have broken up for immature reasons, I may have married before I was ready, etc.
I'm grateful they stopped me. I was able to focus better on school and get my bachelors degree; and on preparing myself to be a mature adult, as well as the wife and mother I am now. Talk with your parents and listen. Be patient. If it's right, it'll work out. :) I'll be crossing my fingers for you.
2006-08-26 16:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by ikikochan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure they have a reason. Just what is it? Has your bf ever lied to you or yelled at you or God forbid become physical with you? If any of the above gets a yes answer I can kind of see why your parents want you to leave him. Did your mom or dad just get a new job or a new promotion and maybe you'll be moving soon and just don't know it yet? I hope that's not the case. Either way tell your parents why you do not want to leave him and be firm in your stand. Also try this have him over so he can get to know your parents and proove himself to them mabye even win them over. It's worth a shot. Good luck.
2006-08-26 16:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them why they dont like him and if they dont give u an answer then take a close careful look at him from their eyes. if u still cant see anything, ask one of your close (and very honest) friends why your parents mite not like him....if u still dont kno why, take a careful look at yourself and what this relationship means to you. do you think you have a future with him? does he bring out the best in you? do you love him? is he holding you back from your full potential in life? are you emotionally mature enough for this serious of a relationship....etc.then if u decided u want to be with him, explain why to your parents and tell them that they cannot decide for you what is right all the time and you would appreciate their support behind your decision. that is all u can do....i wish u the best of luck.
2006-08-26 16:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard qeustion to answer because I am a parent and do not know the first thing about your boyfriend.I can tell you this though Your parents watch your moods whether you realize it or not.This means how have you changed since you have been talking to him for the good or the bad.What has he done to you has he made you depressed or feel beautiful and unique.Your parents love you unconditionally.Does your boyfriend love you unconditionally NO!
2006-08-26 16:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them why they feel that way. Think if there is a valid reason. If you don't see a reasonable reason, tell them thanks for their input. Tell them in the future you will feel more comfortable asking them for their advice, if you feel you need or want it (ie. do you like my new blouse?). Tell them you have strong feelings that inter-personal are important only to the two people who are involved in one, otherwise to give an unasked for opinion is a bit like reading someone's mail. Tell them that you understand their opinion comes from a parents' point of view, who what to see what they think is best, as they did when you were a child. But now it is important to you to have a private life where you feel that your privacy is repected.
2006-08-26 16:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by youought2knowme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have to have a reason. either they are afraid you are having sex or are about to have sex, or they feel he is somehow a bad influence or has shady friends or something. you either know down inside what they object to, and don't want to admit it..or you need to look very clearly at what they see in him, and ask them to be specific as to what they object to. itemize the problems and you can deal with it. no parent just decides to dislike someone for no reason at all. there is something else going on there. ask for it.
2006-08-26 16:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by foxfirevigil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately maybe they do have a reason and are not telling you.....like maybe they have seen him with another girl ....you never know ...but try to do some investigating on your own and see what becomes of it.......maybe they aren't wanting to tell you if something has happened because they don't want to hurt you.....
2006-08-26 16:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by babydoll1987 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be very easily something they know or found out about him that they don't like they may be trying to help you the best they know how unless they just want you make you miserable they may know probably know best although it would hurt best thing you can do is talk to them and try to find out they shouldn't force you to do something without a good reason
2006-08-26 16:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by BlueCherubi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋