to get hurt again & again.. i hope we seperate instead of staying together.. i still want 2 remember him with love not hate or anger.. i dont know wat 2 do.. pls help.. ( he cheated on me many times.. & d last one was i caught in the act)
2006-08-26 16:07:30 · 23 answers · asked by D_I_V_I_N_E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gain some self respect my dear. You are so much better then he is. Hold your head high, and take quick steps to the nearest door. Don't look back. You will be doing something you will not regret. Once someone steps outside the boundaries of marriage, it is ever so easy to do it again and again. I don't believe EVERYONE will repeat in cheating but the odds are against him remaining faithful. Best of luck to you!
2006-08-26 16:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by kris_mom_of_4_girls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may love him but you are clearly not still in love with him. These are 2 totally different things.
On one hand you care for him and what you 2 use to share together before the cheating started.This is when you were in true love with him. And the memory of the him in the past is what keeps you hanging on to him.
Because you are scared to lose that person that he once was. But the true cold fact is that, that person left long ago when he started cheating on you all the time.
And if you don't leave him right away even that memory of him will get messed up and you won't leave the marriage still loving him.
Honestly you don't love the person he is now. You love the person he use to be. You hate the new him and love the old.
The person he once was is gone and the new is here to stay and he is gonna keep on hurting you for as long as you let him.
Ever heard the expression once a cheater always a cheater.
A person can mess up once. But not 2 or more times. If he never stopped after his first time he never will.
You deserve better. Dump him fast. And go find a real man worthy of you and your love. This guy has taken enough from you and doesn't deserve anymore.
Don't let him turn you into a miserable lonely fool. Don't let him kill the best part of you.
What comes around goes around. In the end he will get it stuck to him. Please don't let this guy make a fool of you anymore.
Step up and show this fool what he missed out on when he screwed you over. Rub it in his face when you find the right guy.
The best revenge on him is moving on and finding someone new to be happy with. When he sees this it will kill him and make him realize what he passed up when he screwed you over!!!!
2006-08-26 16:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.
First, pack your stuff and then inform him of the decision you made. You don't have to talk it out with him, after all the affairs he had, he doesn't deserve a second chance.
Reassure him that you are serious about your decision and are over being with him because you cannot stand his infidelity.
You deserve better and I applaud you for wanting to seperate yourself from him. It is fine to love him still, afterall love doesn't disappear in an instant. Love also makes us stick by and deal with getting hurt by the person we love. But, there is only so much one can take.
It's for the better if you leave him.
Best Wishes.
2006-08-26 16:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not that you love him ( he does not deserve you love,because he is cheating you,mean he does not respect you anymore).The real problem is that he really does not love you.Loving him will not make you happy. First you need professional help (marriage counsellors),and then you can get divorce. If he is not changing his behaviour (I do not think he will change),you have to get the divorce and start a better life without the hard time you have right now.Good luck. You can find a better man that will make you happy. But first,relax,think very calm and clear.Get professional help,please,before you do something.
2006-08-26 16:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, you need to look out for who is important. if you have children, quess what, staying with him is not the best thing for them. look what they will be learning about relationships! if it's just you, run, and don't look back! I had to leave an abusive relationship 11 years ago. it was the hardest thing i ever did! in my heart, i still did loved him but i knew my daughter was learning a bad thing. I cried many nights from lonelinss and uncertainty. it hurt so bad sometimes i thought that death would be a blessing.i got through it and you can too! i've been married to a wonderful man now for 6 years.I learned from my previous relationship but i didn't let it taint me from enjoying another man's company.
2006-08-26 16:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by wifeofsickening 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a good reason for divorce, but if you feel strong to deal with ,the situation, do something creative, in order to fix it , JUST remember your relationships went a wrong way for a reason... and if you love him , you can help him to come back to the right road. Forgiveness and love that is what you need. We all need.it. Work it out. Get stronger, you know him better Good luck.
2006-08-26 16:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by a flower 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is simple any guy you can live with is Mr right now but the guy you cant live with out is your soul mate but just a hint if you need one the mere fact your debating this means you two need a break or dont belong together!
2006-08-26 16:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by raquel g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth it to you to stay in this relationship even if you keep getting hurt over and over? If it is, then stay. If not, you need to leave and not look back. With some luck, as time passes you will remember him not with love or hate, but with indifference.
2006-08-26 16:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and have an obligation to your child as well as your self. Love doesn't have to hurt. Sometimes people marry and one lusts while the other loves. Lust dies quickly. You must move on with your life.
Love without respect or fear of consequence is not love at all.
2006-08-26 16:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times.... and you caught in the act?! Girl! I'm sorry to say this, but I think you may have to divorce him. You will never ever forget that. Sometimes people never change. Specially that issue.... NOOO
2006-08-26 16:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋