My best friend since the 8th grade (we are in 11th now) has always been really controlling and agressive, but lately she has gotten much worse, to the point where I actually have to lie to her so she wont get mad at me. If I don't answer my cell phone or reply to her text messages right away she will be paranoid and think im avoiding her or something and get really mad at me. she is always rude when I hang out with other friends and she hangs out with us. like today, i hung out with a group of friends i know, and i invited my friend to come along because she wanted to hang out but i had already made plans with this other group of friends. so she decided to come with us and was extremely rude to them the entire time calling them childish, immature and stupid to their faces. She is always getting mad at me about stupid things and I feel like she is controlling my life.Whenever she wants to do something with me and i say I cant, i can never tell the truth about why bcuz she'll be mad!help
2006-08-26 15:50:02 · 9 answers · asked by 128333 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
start off by telling your friend you and her need to talk and let her know you love her and tell her how you feel and if she dose not change then maybe you shouldn't be friends
2006-08-26 15:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she still really your best friend or is it just a title? I had a best friend when I was younger, but as we grew up, out interests changed, and I found myself being better friends with her older sis. We're still friends and all, but time has a way of changing us and our views on life.
Your friend doesn't sound like much of a friend. Or maybe she's just very self-centered and doesn't realise that what she does is not appealing to you or others. I suggest you tell her honestly what you feel and give her a few examples of her behavior. If she takes it, then more power to you. If she gets upset and mad and says she doesn't want to be friends anymore, I'd say you got shot with a massive dose of luck. Who needs those kinds of friends? Good luck!
2006-08-26 23:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your so called best friend sounds like a control freak....and personally I think that if she is effecting your life this much and is trying to control everthing you do then this isn't a friendship...and from what it sounds like this has been going on for quite some time....you need to sit your so called best friend down and explain that if she can't handle you being friends with other people then you simply can't be friends with her.....I know that sounds mean but i mean you even said she was really rude to your other friends and even if she didn't like them she would have been nice to them if she was a true friend....If she means a lot to you then she will understand that its your life you can hang out with who you want.........and that is that.....and along with a control freak issue that she has she might be feeling like you guys are drifting apart.........and maybe she is a little jealous so why don't you and her set a day every week for you guys to hang out and have fun.....after you explain that she is being rude and inconsiderate towards your feelings and your friends......I hope this works out for you assuming she means a lot to you.........if you need to talk e-mail me through yahoo answers.........:)
2006-08-26 23:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this question. Is a friend someone who gets paranoid and mad at their friend if they stop paying attention to them for as much as a couple of seconds? If you want my opinion, I can't call that friend, just a very annoying aquaintance. Just talk to her about it and let her know that she is annoying you. How are you supposed to fix the problem when you won't even make her realize what she is doing?
2006-08-26 22:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by lady_ellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to be forward on this one. You don't neccessarily have to say anything extremely mean, but you will have to confront her eventually... It'll be hard, but you've got to give it a try. She might be mad at first, but if she really does care about you in the way a good friend should, she'll come around.
2006-08-26 22:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by No O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Pice Pegasus' answer to your question and suggest you follow her advice.
Someone who wants to control your movements and who you go out with, is not a true friend. You must have your own space, even when you are attached!
If she does not accept what you have to tell her, then you should not consider or treat her as your friend. You cannot avoid the confrontation with her, otherwise your life will not be pleasant with her around.
2006-08-26 23:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her plain and simple to back off. Explain why because she might not realize she is doing this. Talk to a counseler about it and i'm sorry but you might want to find a different best friend if your really this tired of her behavior.
2006-08-26 23:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Natalie Rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that she doesn't own you or control you. Tell her shes getting down right rude and if she doesn't stop you will stop being her friend. She needs to remember your not her personal servent and can't cator to her every need every waking moment. Your friend needs to stop being clingy to you and get her own life. Shes too attached to you.
2006-08-26 23:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this one is obsessed with you EEK...i would not be friend, nor lie to her...Tell her she is to controlling and she is driving you crazy....
2006-08-26 23:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋