What should I say?

Question

Some girls in my church are constantly talking about me behind my back. I decided to talk to them all tomorrow about it, but I'm at a loss for words? What should I say?

Answer 1

Say nothing. You be the bigger one. For God's sake, they're in church. They shouldn't say anything about anyone. I wouldnt even want you to stoop that low in the church of God. I wouldnt worry about it. They're talking about you because they are jealous and you're on their mind for some reason that's all.

Answer 2

Just ask them flat out if you have done something to offend them and A) if they answer yes, ask what it is and if there is anything you can do to change it and ask them to quit talking about you behind your back. Tell them if they have a problem, do like it says in Matthew and go to the person ( You ) with that problem and discuss it outright with you. And ,B) if they say No... there is no problem, then ask them what the deal is with them talking about you and that you think it is rude and that they should apply the scripture 1 Timothy 4:13. Now, admittedly it is for young wives, but it also applies to young women and old women as well and certainly to these young girls if they are talking about you behind your back. Just keep your cool and above all, don't let them see you cry, because if they really do have some kind of a beef with you and are holding something against you , crying will just open you up to their ridicule and mockery. I hope everything works out for you , sweetie. Good luck!

Answer 3

How do you know these girls are talking about you behind your back? Is that a fact or just speculation? Be sure before you approach them about this or you may be embarrassed. Just looking on a positive side of this... if they are talking about you.. could it possibly be something about how they like your hair or you dress? Or do you think it is something negative? If you think its negative.. what grounds do you have that proves this? I am not picking on you.. just make sure before you assume. If they attend church only to talk about you behind your back negatively.. then they attend for the wrong reason. Maybe they should listen to some sermons about treating others as you want to be treated. Good luck tomorrow.

PS.. One thing I like to say to people that think they are so perfect... is..."When you walk on water.. call me I want to watch." That usually gets their attention.

Answer 4

Well if they are from church I think that I would quote a Bible verse. My favorite with my children is Judge not lest ye be judged.
It would probably work best if you are not angry when you talk to them. Make them understand that it hurts your feelings. Tell them "When you talk about me behind my back and say mean things it hurts my feelings and makes me feel sad." If they do not respond to that you can go on and ask a question like "Do you not like me? or Are we really friends?"
If you are angry you will put them on the defense. By telling them your feelings you will make them realize that they are being mean and if they are nice people they will feel bad and talk to you about it. If they are rude about it then I think you need new friends.

Answer 5

Be as calm and polite as possible and ask them if there is a problem? Was there something you did or said that upset them? Sometimes we think people are talking about us when really that is just our impression. Good luck. I hope everything works out. Church should be a safe, happy place.

Answer 6

Maybe you should talk it over with your Sunday School teacher or another trusted friend of yours at church,BEFORE you confront these girls. (This certainly isn't very Christian of them to be gossiping.) If you REALLY want this to stop, I highly suggest this.
I find that when I keep my voice calm,not loud and I stick to the point....AND...keep it in the "I." I feel this or I was so hurt." NOT........"You made me feel horrible " or "you are being so mean. " People tend to listen if you remember my little suggestions. MOST important...I really suggest you talk about this with a trusted person, FIRST. So often, this is of help to me. And ask God to be in charge of the talk. Whatever He wants me to say,"Please speak through me.Whatever You don't want me to say,please be silent through me. Whatever You want, that's what I want." Amen. I'll say a prayer for you as soon as I post this. Good luck,friend.

Answer 7

Say, I hear that some people have been talking about me behind my back. And then walk away from them.

But why even bother. Just don't hang out with them. People are petty like that. Be better then that.

Answer 8

just let them know if they have any problems that need to be address to let you know you don't want any hardship for anyone and you don't want to be the reason that they can't service the Lord and if you are the only reason they come to church is to talk about you then they are there for the wrong reasons tell them that you will continue to pray for them and that God's blessings and mercy forever be on them i know you know the saying to "kill them with kindness" works everytime ps keep a peaceful smile on your face the whole time lol

Answer 9

If they talk good about you,let them talk. If they talk something bad about you, Call the priest or Pastor and talk with him about it.If you talk alone with those girls,first, be very friendly,polite,kind; and then you can start to ask any questions you want to know.Never be angry, and be very careful.You can say: Hi,god bless you ladies,can I ask a question?,then you ask and listen the answer without be angry. After, if you do not fix the problem,talk with the pastor or priest.Good luck.

Answer 10

"Yo listhen up. If you gurls are going to be talking behind my back, at least fess up to it and stop acting like lil bitc*'s and make fun of me in my face."

"What are you talking about?!?!?!"

"Listhen dont play dumb and grow up cause this is the house of GOD and you should respect me as much as you do him or get the F*CK out"

Haha ok don make it that bad but you get the idea! Just let them know that you are not stupid and know that they are being stupid behind your back. Let them know if they wanna say something, say it to your face and stop hiding behind people to make them feel better. Top it off with stuff like them having some real problems with people and you don need to worry about idiots like them. You are better then them!

*Once you take Sh*t, throw that same Sh*t and throw it back at your enemies*

lol that came right outa my Head............. waaaaoooow