My husband and I have entered into a phase of our marriage where things have gotten kinda stale. I told him that I didnt mind him sleeping with other women as long as he was honest and told me about it. We are also entering into domination and threesomes. Is that something that I am insane for doing, or are there others like me?
2006-08-26 15:30:36 · 35 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think you have entered the beginning of the end of your marriage. Work it out between the two of you and don't base your marriage on sex. There's much more to it.
2006-08-26 15:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
How much do you love your husband? Do you think that you can handle it if he falls in love with someone else? Are you ok with sleeping with other women. Most marriages that started out as a "normal" marriage and then turn into this, end up in divorce court. Marriages where this was how they started out, tend to last through this because both partners were honest from the begining and they have set out certain rules. No, you are not insane, just a little confused I think. If you are ok with it...really, deep in your heart, then that is ok. If you are someone who wants to feel totally special, and be "the one & only" of your husband, then I wouldn't go any further and you should encourage your husband to go to counseling or a couples retreat with you. Good Luck:)
2006-08-26 15:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay let's dissect your question. First off there are others like you. I wouldn't say you are insane for your decision. However, you probably think that sleeping with other women, and having threesomes, you and your husband are going to fix whatever problem is making your marriage "stale."
You need to have a dialogue with your husband. As long as you have given him permission to sleep with other women, there's nothing wrong with it. But if you're willing to share your husband with other women, don't you think that there is something wrong? I could never share my girlfriend. She is my soulmate and I can't even think of having a threesome. I am satisfied with only one person. Do you think your husband is satisfied with you? If not spark up your marriage by reliving some of the things that made you two fall in love with one another in the first place.
If nothing else works, you two should see a marriage counselor.
2006-08-26 15:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by BlueLantern 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is an issue of moral. As long as personally you feel comfortable its you to take decission. Consider yourself an individual and make your own decission on moral matters. Why should you care others opinion for such issue.
If the reason is to seek for like minded i suggest you to be more strait forward since it will not be a problem to find one.
2006-08-26 15:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by THINK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are others like you.
Whether or not it's insane depends on your self confidence, trust, jealousy, etc... Short answer: Yes- your husband is allowed to sleep with all the women he wants, but you MUST NOT sleep with any other men. Didn't U read the rulebook??
2006-08-26 15:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by TwisterChamp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it would be unwise to enable this proceed. you do no longer pick threesomes, you pick a relationship counsellor and expert help to get the spice back! sparkling up the concern at it truly is source, do no longer paint and plaster over it. it truly is like a maximum cancers - the long the underlying problems go on, the extra serious it gets. this might substitute into the elephant interior the corner. it may even break the marriage.
2016-11-05 21:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is will you be able to live with the fact that YOUR husband is having sex with another woman..Personally I couldn't live with it but if you can more power to you..I just hope you know what you might be getting yourself into in the long run..What's the worse that could happen if you couldn't live with it ....DIVORCE...Or a transmitted desease like HIV etc..
2006-08-26 15:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, are you Christians? You got married. A marriage is a catholic ceremony where you vow before God to spend the rest of your life with someone and to give yourself only to that person. No it's not okay if your husband sleeps with someone else. He's breaking his promise to you and God that he will only give himself to you.
2006-08-26 15:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by sky_raider16 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would rather be involved somehow than have him go off alone wth another woman. i wanna hear everything that is said. get a game play put together first before entering into this. Discuss EVERYTHING, if you can't discuss it, don't do it.
2006-08-26 16:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by turtle girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for the first part i think that you are crazy because marriage is sacred and all but the threesome thats fine as long as you are involved and the domintation thing thats your guys choice and there is nothing wrong with exploring new areas
2006-08-26 15:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by connor b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋