I would like feedback please be nice just trying to get opinions.
Im 20 years old, married for 1 year my husband and I have been thinking of starting our family he is 23 do you think we should wait a few years or go with what feels right? Also we have been together for 5 years. I think we are ready Input please
2006-08-26 14:46:44 · 15 answers · asked by kck3186 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have 1 child now and one on the way..it all depends if your ready emotionally, physically, mentally, and financelly...if you are or if your not that is up to you....just follow your heart and do what feels right
2006-08-26 14:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would wait maybe a bit more. I only say this because you are both young, not too young to have kids but young to give up the freedom that having children will end. I am 33 and have two kids, one of each. I adore my kids and LOVE being a Mom. I am still "young" we al have a great time. I am a fun Mom that loves to play and do things with my kids. They are 10 and 4. Having my daughter at 23, well i was plenty "old enough" but you do give up things. Like, coming and doing whenever you want, vacations are different...travel is planned around them. Napping, schedules, going "out" all aspects of life are changed. I am glad that I had a few years in my 20's to be "in my 20's. I was responsible, had two jobs, because I had the time. I spent alot of time with my friends. Going to different places and seeing things. I look back on my "time" and smile. I am glad that i had my kids ypoung 23---29, I will be still young when they are grown and off to college. I would say you both have time, play, travel...make a short list of things better done with no kids. Then have kids in 2-3 yrs.
2006-08-26 14:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends if you are emotionally and financially capable of raising a baby. I dont think age has anything to do with it. Since both of you sound excited about it, why not. My husband and I waited 9 years to start a family. I am 35 weeks pregnant with my second child (I am 34) and sometimes wish I had started a family earlier since I am feeling a bit old this time around. Then again I am happy we waited since I can financially afford to stay at home with my kids. Hope that helps.
2006-08-26 17:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by sooz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body tells you when your ready. I had all three of my children before I turned 25. I was married to a man who didn't want anymore kids so I got a tubal. Now that I'm turning 29 on tuesday, my body is going nuts and so am I. Your body lets you know when you are ready. If you try too soon, you won't care for the baby as well as you would if you waited on your body. I wish I could have just one more.
2006-08-26 15:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by TheMightyOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is good to be a couple for awhile before having kids. Being boyfriend/girlfriend is different from being engaged or living together, which is different from being married, which is different from being married with kids. It is a good sign that you are considering whether or not you are ready to start a family. Personally, I'd wait another year or so, you are young and it's not like your biological clock is ticking.
2006-08-26 16:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you're ready and are standing on firm ground (financially speaking) I say GO FOR IT! Golly my parents dated for about 6 months then got married and had me before they were even married a year(and they're still together). I think you guys would do fine. I wish you luck with whatever you decide.
2006-08-26 14:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Cass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am 21 and my fiance and i have been engaged for 8 months and we have been planning our wedding for july 2007, and not planned but i am 6 months pregnant... if you feel you are ready to start a family its something u shoudl talk to ur husband about, but for us it went a little out of order but we are so excited.... and we have been together for 5 years.....
2006-08-26 14:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by shhhhh123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I were your exact ages, if you love eachother and are comitted start a family. We have been married for 31 happy years, it has been an effort. If you are willing to work at it, go for it. Sorry, I am a man. IT TAKES A LOT OF WORK. It is not 50/50 it is 100%/100% and it is worth it if you are willing to work at it.
2006-08-26 14:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by soar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....same here...only were not planning on kids yet(maby in 2 years)...go with what feels right make sure the both of you are sure about it....don't have a bunch yet though.. take it slow...u guys are still young...but as long as you guys are financially ready and love each other ...i don't see why not
2006-08-26 14:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by **sweetbabe** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you financially ready? Big question...and go have some fun depends on how many kids you want too.
2006-08-26 15:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by sexymama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋