I recently turned 26 years old. My idea of a fun Saturday night is going to the movies by myself. Last Saturday, an acquaintance invited me to go to this place called Bongos in Miami. It is a restaurant/club. She was going to be there with some of her friends, I decided not go because I knew I wouldn't be able to find someone to come with me. I didn't want to show up at the place all by myself, exposing myself that way. Needless to say, she has not spoken to me since then. This is the story of my life...always alone! I can always be found in public by myself. I seriously don't know what to do...This has been my life throughout high school, college, and now it's getting worse and worse. The only time I really interact with people is at work. I don't know what I'm going to do if my life continues that way. Your 20s are suppose to be spent developing your social skills, and meeting new people. I'm not even there...
2006-08-26 14:42:43 · 10 answers · asked by John D 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well, take more chances. If you do not take any risks then how are people supposed to get to know you? People dont bite, dont worry. If you give them a chance to hang out with you I'm sure they will. Call your friend up and ask her when they are going to the club again and go with them. There is nothing wrong with going by yourself. Just go there and socialize and dance just because its fun. Don't worry about what other people think of you. What does it matter what they think? You can change the story of your life if you just take initiative to change it. You have had chances, you just have to take them and run with it.
2006-08-26 14:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by Nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could the possibility exist that you may have acquired a social disorder of sorts? They are not uncommon and each of us has one or more. Throughout these experiences, developing a depression or a form of melancholy is normal. We unreasonably expect to have similar social comfort as our peers.
We soon discover that social skills is a learned behavior and find difficulty in applying what we apparently lack. Fortunately there are hordes of others who can empathize with you.
Find some of these with whom you can form a support group of sorts. One in which you can experiment your social graces. Start out at the movies (something you already enjoy) and find other public places where you can feel comfortable and enjoy. Good Luck!
2006-08-26 15:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by M.C. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work you say?
Use that to your advantage. Use "I need some help on this thing I'm doing, can you join me for lunch?" as an excuse to have some social interaction, and maybe invite them out one night. Don't seem despirate, and get off the internet. You heard me, off the computer. Get off right now, and just get out there. Religious? Join your church/parish/temple's group and try to do something to benefit the community. Movies scream solitute (it's dark.) Go somewhere lighted. Explore your interests and get to know yourself before you go off meeting someone else. You'll get through it, I know you will.
2006-08-26 14:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you complain about things but don't do anything to change what you are complaining about.
Join an online social service. Go to events, get phone numbers, call people. Call this girl up and ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. Show up by yourself, so you can leave whenever you want. That's why normal people show up by themselves.
If you don't do anything to change what you don't like, you have no leg to stand on when you complain.
2006-08-26 14:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a loner, maybe it's because you like to be in GOOD COMPANY!?
Don't be afraid to go out on your own, it's cool. The more you worry about it, the more of an issue it is.
The coolest people I know have been met while they AND I were alone.
Cliques are for dorks.
2006-08-26 14:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by tonevault 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AAwww YOu just gotta be more outgoing, try not to be shy and just start a conversation with people you're around, before you know, it you'll get closer to them and bam! u got friends
2006-08-26 14:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just met the love of my ilfe from work and i'm 28 :) (plus i am also very anti-social lol) so it worked out :)
2006-08-26 14:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by the1princessh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine sucks ... all my friends moved away from town ... i'm pretty much the only one her ... sometimes I don't even know what to do ... my life is pretty sad.
2006-08-26 14:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by CUERVO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel come to my life store..and i thought i was all alone
2006-08-26 14:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were invited to go out with a freind and her freinds and you bailed??? DUH
2006-08-26 14:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋