Why is my social life so sad?

Question

I recently turned 26 years old. My idea of a fun Saturday night is going to the movies by myself. Last Saturday, an acquaintance invited me to go to this place called Bongos in Miami. It is a restaurant/club. She was going to be there with some of her friends, I decided not go because I knew I wouldn't be able to find someone to come with me. I didn't want to show up at the place all by myself, exposing myself that way. Needless to say, she has not spoken to me since then. This is the story of my life...always alone! I can always be found in public by myself. I seriously don't know what to do...This has been my life throughout high school, college, and now it's getting worse and worse. The only time I really interact with people is at work. I don't know what I'm going to do if my life continues that way. Your 20s are suppose to be spent developing your social skills, and meeting new people. I'm not even there...

Answer 1

You do know that since she invited you there is the distinct possibility that she is interested in you. Your failure to show up could have been seen as rejection, hence the reason she has not spoken to you since then. You have to take a chance and get out there. You are never going to meet any body to take places if you don't chance going alone. That is how you meet them. What do you think they are going to do? Magically appear in your living room, sit down on the couch next to you and offer you a foot rub. Get off your butt and go mingle. Take a deep breath and smile. It only gets better from where you are now. If you are truly so shy and akward that you don't feel you are ever going to be able to get past it, make an appointment with a counselor. They can help.

Answer 2

For starters you really shouldn't be sitting at home pitying yourself about being a loser. The only one that can change your outlook on yourself is you. Why not ask people at work what their plans are for the weekend & maybe meet up with them? You should have gone with your friends to the club...who cares if you show up alone. I've felt like that in several situations, but you go & suck it up until you get there & then you're fine. No one cares if you show up alone---you're meeting people there. Why not try and look for people with similar intrests as yours to hang out with....there are million websites that offer such networking.

Answer 3

try talking to people, ok heres a good start u said u talk with people at ur work place right well try inviting them out to a restaraunt or the movies sometime then maybe another day after that they will invite u somewhere and u could meet some of there friends and there u go.. believe me u should try that im a pro at these things

Answer 4

The next time a girl invites you out, you go lol. Showing up alone doesnt mean anything bad at all. It means that any girl there knows they can talk to you freely. You get center stage, go have fun and make new friends lol.

Answer 5

Sounds like your own fault. You had a perfectly good opportunity to meet a bunch of girls and you didn't even show up. That is pathetic. Your friend was probably trying to help you. Don't blow off your good opportunities and then whine about it.

Answer 6

Then you shouldve gone to the club, jeez
be outgoing
you gotta be up for alot
take risks
be funny
be the all dimensional guy

Answer 7

shame on you - stop saying no. talk to strangers - at least hello. do volunteer work - join a church or something and force yourself to go out there don't wait until you feel it is hopeless and why are you asking in a basketball category?

Answer 8

You should have gone anyway. How do you know her friends didn't take dates/friends either? You only live once.

Answer 9

that sucks man

Answer 10

...Maybe your a jerk...