Overcoming Loneliness?

Question

I am experiencing extreme feelings of loneliness. I'm 46 and a divorced woman. What strategies have others used to overcome and not just get lost in it all.

Answer 1

I am sorry about your divorce and I also am 46. It can be very hard to meet people. I would suggest trying and getting out. I enjoy going to Starbucks and reading. If you are involved with a church they usually have a lot of single clubs. I would also look into community programs! Do you have children? One way I keep busy is helping out with Little League, I don't know your interested. Maybe you could try and get involved in woman groups, join a gym. start a coffee night out with friends or people you enjoy. I also work full time. There are so many things that at 46 we have learned and can be of real value. Try and get involved in something you enjoy. Make yourself go out twice a week. Even if it is out for Coffee, a book store, an antique shop or whatever you would enjoy.
The important thing is that you keep yourself busy. I think that it helps to get involved with other people, they are many people who love to socialize and if you reach out you will find some. I wish you the best and remember you still have a lot of love to give and a lot of people are looking for someone to spend time with keep the doors open and good luck!

Answer 2

You are experiencing the same feelings millions of women, and men are world wide, so don't feel it's your fault. It isn't, and there are many reasons.
There are so many divorced,widowed, or single women of all ages and the supply of suitable single males are really limited.
Men have basically the same problems but they also have many more females to choose form. There are just more females than males in every country.
Also males (sexually at least) reach their peek at about 18 and it's down hill from there on, while women often are in their 50s or later before they reach their peak.
I would (if possible) travel, go fishing, visit small towns, the sea coast, mountains, or go places which would interest you.(many people don't realize the pleasures of small towns.
Find something to do that interests you. If you don't have small children tieing you down, do as many women are doing here. Go to a college(I went to a small college 1/3 of the student body was over 40). Take a course just for you. art, music, or another language, career or just something you like.
If it's company you need go places where you can find it. If you are a regular church member but feel you have no interest there go to a different Church. Use different shopping centers or just move.
Small country dances are a good place to meet people and most of them are good people seeking the same thing you are>:)
good luck

Answer 3

First , what were you doing before you became lonely? if it was looking after one fella, and not any more. Then it is up to you to get out of the house and make new friends. The best way to do this is to volunteer, your time can be used up so you would never be alone if that is your choice. The reason why I say volunteer is because you control, where, howmuch, with whom ect, And every one appreciates a helping hand if your moral needs a boost. Please don't let your loneliness get a hold as it is hard to shake off. I truly wish you well and good luck

Answer 4

Hmm when i am lonely i go outside and plant flowers
Then i Read some poetry and see how many of my friends are on

Loneliness can be countered miss, you gotta enjoy something you liked true loneliness is destruction, sadness, depression, suicide, death, abandon, thats true loneliness,

Try thinking happy thoughts if you need someone to talk i am here to listen

Answer 5

I am also a divorcee and I am age 48 and so we do have some things in common Here is how I deal with my loneliness:
Get a few good people to chat with.Just people who know what they are talking about and chat without looking at the watch.

Find things to laugh about.
Try to do some educational course in anything-learn something new
Make new acquaintances

fix old things by yourself

Answer 6

Gracie, I too deal with loneliness alot. I am married but more lonely then if I was alone, now isn't that sad. The one thing I have started to do for myself is exercise to help with the feelings. Now it doesn't take the loneliness away but it does help me with so many other things in my life, like my arthritis and weigh-loss. Do you have an email buddy? That helps too, to have someone to email everyday just to check in with someone and say hi and how are you...... if you would like to email with me I would love another email [e-mail]

Answer 7

I am also lonely... But i try to do things that i do not usually do! Good things, of course!Go to a coffe shop, wear something sexy!!! come on, u can get through!!! I feel like i am getting lost. Make friends as many as u can!!! chat, join clubs, societies, ect.
If u need some1 i am here for u.

Answer 8

I sometimes feel very lonely - I chat online, read books, watch tv - these can help or just go to a coffee shop or bookstore or somewhere that interests you. You may just meet someone that way.

Answer 9

HI Gracie,
Jennifer here. Email me at [e-mail]
We can talk.

Answer 10

Good Freinds and Loud Music. There is nothing those two can't cure.