My neighbors had a woman staying with them & my husband would go outside every day at the time she walked her dog and flirt with the woman. She had a husband too but, she loved it and would strike these sexy poses. I think it was an ego trip for both of them but, it hurt me badly and made me feel unattractive. He knew I was watching and that seemed to fuel him even more. When I told him it bothered me he just smiled and said, "There's nothing between us"., but, that wasn't the point. He disrespected me and liked doing it. What do you think?
2006-08-26 13:55:14 · 24 answers · asked by crazywoman88 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I stay because he supports me well and is good to me in other ways. That was yrs. ago. He doesn't do it any more. The problem was not with me. He has emotional problems but, too bad, too late. Now I have a secret lover I will love forever. Karma.
2006-08-26 14:13:15 · update #1
Whether there's something between them or not is not the issue. The issue here is it bothers you. I don't blame you for being upset because your husband is indeed disrespecting your feelings by blowing the whole thing off as if it's supposed to mean nothing to you. He needs to learn to respect your feelings by ceasing this activity of his. Yes it's probably harmless and may be all for fun but if it's affecting you, he needs to understand that and stop doing it in front of you.
2006-08-26 14:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes he did disrespect you as well if he treated you well yrs ago again why stay and you have a new love on the side why stay eventually everything that is in the dark will come to light and he will find out and the you will have even more problems if you prefer to be with the new guy walk way from your marriage before things get way out of hand
2006-08-26 15:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by teresa d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was probably very attracted to her and he was taking advantage of the fact he knew she liked him too. He may have been angry at you at the time as well being he wasn't considering your feelings at all. Sorry that happened to you> did you just say you took a lover, as revenge for him flirting with a girl years ago? Hmm.... Wouldn't it be nice if you both could forgive and forget and put each other first?
2006-08-26 14:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more social . Why don't you go out there and talk to the neighbors. Also gain some more confidence. Take good care of yourself. I don't know how long you guys been married but I know that guys get sick of their wife after a while especially when they start wearing baggy clothes and no make up. Cheer up because guys don't like misarable girls.Be nice to everyone. One thing my husband can't stand is when I complain about a neighbor it's a total turn off for him. Get out tehre and adore her dog.
Ihope this helps
2006-08-26 14:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I am about to say may sound kind of childish, but here it goes.
Instead of watching and coming to you own conclusion of whether to trust him or not I would not put it to the test. I would have went up to the both of them in a real skimpy outfit, with the sluttiest c*ntiest most sassy queen ***** walk ever and let him and that ***** know who is boss.
I would have been looking her right in the eye all sassy and sh*t. I would have sassed of so much she would have to walk away cuz she would feel really uncomfortable and she would then know who is queen ***** of all b!tches.
I would explain to your husband that you do not like his behavior and you will not tolerate it.
2006-08-26 14:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HECK YES IT WAS WRONG OF HIM!! I don't understand why women do this...I know we like to feel attractive,etc. but c'mon whatever happened to being faithful to your partner (referring to the other woman!) As far as your husband goes, I would tell him exactly what you said re: his answer: THAT'S NOT THE POINT! And then tell him what the point is...spell it out for him; unfortunately, guys aren' t the most intelligent beings on earth and they have to have everything explained to them!!
2006-08-26 14:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by mamitasaritabendita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was just flirting. He should not have done it knowing you were watching. What is you having a secret lover going to solve?
2006-08-27 01:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband has no respect for you. I would also questions his feelings considering he took enjoyment in hurting you. I think you need to explain that it isnt him talking to another woman that hurts you but his total lack of respect. If he smiles and says something flip, maybe its time to seperate for a while.
2006-08-26 14:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. He was very disrespectful. Perhaps a few nights on the couch will help him to realize the error of his ways.
2006-08-26 14:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jus try putting him in the position you were flirt with one of your neighbors and when he come to complain about it reply exactly what he said to you....And then tell him about he put u through when he was out flirting with the nex door neighbour guest
2006-08-26 14:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋