my daughter is 12 years old (13 in a month) and is a diaper lover.should i get her the diapers she wants??she does not like being a baby (pacifiers,bottles etc.) she just likes to wear diapers.should i let her wear them???she doesnt like wear them all the time,only at home sometimes.
2006-08-26 13:53:50 · 48 answers · asked by mom of 3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she changes them herself and she doesnt want baby diapers,just goodnites.i have taken her to a theripist,but i was told it was normal.besides the diaper loving,my daugter is normal.its not a sexual fetish,she just likes them.
2006-08-26 14:03:29 · update #1
she has freinds
2006-08-26 14:04:40 · update #2
of corse shes potty trained.she was potty trained when she was 2 1/2.
2006-08-26 14:06:23 · update #3
Why? Why does she want to wear diapers? Does she have much younger siblings in the home that getmore attention, because they need more care? Is she going through a phase with her friends? Is it a joke to her? Maybe, ok, definitely, I'd seek counseling for her.
2006-08-26 13:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would guess that there is some deeper issue at hand here. I suggest you focus on finding the cause of this fetish (be it sexual or not). Chances are there are other issues as well that you are not aware of.
Assuming she does not have a medical problem, you must realize, of course, that the fact that she has made it this far in life wearing diapers does not do much for your reputation as a parent. I agree with the person who said you need a new therapist. That is NOT typical.
2006-08-26 15:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, let her have them. There isn't anything wrong with liking to wear them as long as it's just that. I mean what is the difference between that and someone liking to wear nylon panties instead of cotton? Everyone has likes and dislikes, hers are just different than yours.
Hey, think about it, when her periods start (if they haven't already) then she will be ready for them and you have to admit, they will probably be easier to deal with than tampons or pads.
Something else too, she could have a lot worse things that she could like to do, such as smoking or drugs or something like that.
Let her enjoy herself, but she is old enough to earn them by doing her chores and other things around the house.
Good luck.
2006-08-26 16:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get therapy, switch doctors. It's NOT normal! It will screw her over when she's an adult. The men she will be attracted to will be bizarre. My ex was into diapers and he had SO many parental issues. Do you want her to be attracted to men like that? Plus, if someone gets their hands on that information when she gets older, it could seriously undermine her reputation. It's not healthy. It WILL turn into something sexual when she gets older, so admonish her for it and get that girl therapy. Fix it!
2006-08-30 09:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a real question?? If it is you really need to check with a doctor because that is not normal behavior. By the time most girls are of that age they are starting to think of boys and appearance, not wearing diapers. Go get her some counseling.
2006-08-26 13:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ok, people on here are telling you that it would be embarrassing if people would find out, but if she really wants to wear them, she wouldn't be embarrassed, would she.
I am pretty much the same age as your daughter and the one thing all teenagers hate, is when their parents say no. I would let her wear them, but ask her why does she want to.
As everyone knows, it's unnatural for anyone over the age of six to want to wear them so you might want to seek counselling for your daughter.
Whatever you do, just remember that if and when you say no, your daughter might try to buy them herself and if she is hiding them from her school friends and they catch her, well, that's the end of her social status (very important to teens). Then if you catch her sneaking around with them, that will cause more arguments.
My advice is to play it safe, let her wear them around the house only and seek counselling for her.
*~Good Luck~*
2006-08-26 14:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by Miley#1Fan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your therapist said this was normal? I'd listen to the professionals, but you might want a second opinion? The fact that you're asking the question here tells me you don't necessarily agree with the therapist that said it was normal.
Unless you were told that this was a medical problem, and it should be treated by allowing her to wear diapers until it resolves itself, I'd at least check with one more mental health professional.
2006-08-26 14:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by mightyart 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i dont really think there is anything wrong with her wanting to wear them i have an older brother that wears diapers not for fun though hes is disabled. but i would really want to try and find out why she wants to wear them if there isnt any health issues.
2006-08-29 16:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by emily b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless she has a serious bladder or defication problem that can't be controlled she should not be wearing diapers. You need to tell her that she is way too old to be wearing diapers and she will be very embarrassed if someone were to find out.
2006-08-26 13:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by jjc92787 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Let her wear them if she wants. It's not like it's a bad thing. It's just a phase and she'll grow out of it.
Maybe she's scared of her period starting and it getting on her clothes and she's just wearing them so it doesn't make a mess?
I'd get professional help though.
2006-08-27 19:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋