Have you ever gone through a seperation from your spouse?
How long did it last?
What made you decide to give it another try?
I am banging my head against the wall trying to figure out a way to get my wife back before its too late...
I just want to hear some other peoples stories on the matter... see what kind of hope I might have..
2006-08-26 13:23:08 · 16 answers · asked by althor989 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didnt cheat and never would.. or will.. the seperation occured over a name calling match.. she started it and I said some things I really regret.. but in my opinion nothing that cant be worked through.. but she is threatening divorce...
2006-08-26 13:31:49 · update #1
I left me hubby a couple of times. I am to the breaking point again. He never spends time with me and wants to always drink. I fell out of love with him a long long time ago but he has 3 boys and i am extremely close to his youngest and everytime i leave he has him call me and ask me to come home. I hate to hear him cry on the phone and stuff so i do come home for the sake of the boys. I know that is the wrong thing to do but i feel obligated to him and his children to make a better life for them than what i had growing up.
he is very verbal abusive to me and has been more times than i like to count physical abusive to me also. he hasnt hit me in a long time but that is not the point. This is a very bad marriage and nothing can help me now.
Now a question for you...if you were in my shoes what would you do??? There is no love coming from me and we have been married for 7 yrs (yesterday was our anniversary) I work 2nd shift and need the money to find another place and all so i didnt take the day off but we agreed to spend today together and he wentt to a party and drank and is at our river lot now and he is drinking...I dont drink hardy cuz of the medicine i am on and i asked him if i could go and he said i wouldnt enjoy myself. What would you do???
If your relationship isnt as bad as mine then i suggest that you really try hard before she makes a decision that will affect you 2 for the rest of your lives and she may regret it later in life!!!!
2006-08-26 14:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by dede 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it really was something as trivial as name-calling, it should be something that can be resolved. You need to talk to a therapist separately & together. Establish some ground rules about what is & isn't acceptable in your marriage. And then stick with the rules. Sounds silly, but it makes a difference. I've been married 15 years & those rules have pulled our butts out of more than a few arguments!
2006-08-26 15:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 12 years...together for 14. We did seperate 5 years into our marriage due to an affair. I think time apart as painful as it is can help 2 people get their heads clear. Time away from one another gives each of you the opportunity to evaluate what you want from your lives with each other.
2006-08-26 14:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I used to be too busy to have any time for each other and got seperated for 2 weeks and got back together after seeing a counselor but it has to go both ways- its like a bridge -go on some dates
2006-08-26 19:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like play got out of hand and her feelings were deeply hurt. Perhaps, if you truly regret saying what you did, then make it up to her. Send her flowers with sweet sincere notes. Talk with her. I'm betting she wants to know why you even thought to say certain names and she might be having a hard time getting over it. Muster every confidence that you have and go to her. I do wish you the best
2006-08-26 13:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What caused the separation?
I have been separated for over a year now. My husband has tried many times to get me back but every time I give him a chance he screws it back up. Now I'm ready to file for divorce.
Basically it depends on what is the reason for the separation. If it's forgivable then you may have a chance. Just be a man of your word.
2006-08-26 13:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by pinksmycolor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A seperation is a terrible thing to have to go thru, i feel for ya, been there and it didnt work out, sounds to me like she may not want it to work out. Talk to her, but straight up with her and tell her to be honest with u. Ask her if she would be willing to go to marriage counseling, but remember both of u have to want this marriage to work or counseling is useless!!
2006-08-26 13:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by nonnaluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have been through a seperation, and nearly divorced from him, we seperated for 3 weeks, and he came home, and we moved away and started over, it works better, if you move away, so that they isnt any drama interfering
2006-08-26 13:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been seperated a few times,,
ask her what she really wants ,, does she want to talk to a theraphist and try to work it out,, does she just want some time to think and be alone?? Or have you done something horrid that can't be forgiven? Just lisen to her,, and try not to judge her thoughts and feelings and not make her see your point of view just lisen to her.
2006-08-26 13:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by B V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say starting for apologize for the things you say to her, pride won't take you anywhere if you want her to stay... Offer her to go to counseling, and star impressing her like when you where dating, invite her to a nice restaurant, send her flowers... and if you are broke (like I see in the other q that you ask) make her love notes, send her love emails, use your imagination, but don't stop....All this things worked with me, and my husband and I are together again
2006-08-26 14:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by None 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋