Interracial relationships in the USA...?

Question

Are they prevalent? I ask because it is here in the UK, in fact my son is mixed race, but interracial dating seems to be so much more problematic in the USA. I was told by my American mate that if I went to some Southern States in America we'd get a bad reception as he is white and I'm black.. even though we are just mates...
Now that I'm older I date black men now for varying reasons but I'm still interested in how interracial dating is perceived in America?

"angry sandwich" I could care less what people think of me... i'm curious... IS THAT ALLOWED???

"church" I know it happens everywhere. but I have been to most parts of Britain with white partners with no hassle, and I can visit other races' houses quite freely.. jeez that's worrying!!

Answer 1

I think it depends on where in America you live. Southern states are very conservative so interracial dating is not widely accepted. However, in big cities it is more accepted because big cities are more diverse. Even in big cities in the south such as Houston, Phoenix, Miami, etc., it is acceptable.

As an American, I don't understand how this would receive a bad reception.

Answer 2

I live in Los Angeles. It's a big international city, and people here seem very tolerant. I've never seen anyone have a problem with race mixing. I think the issue is not if it is a problem in America, but where in America. Southern States have a bad reputation of racial intolerance, these are not my thoughts by the way. I do not know whether it is true or not, I'm just reporting what I've head through media coverage, so no offense. If you fear that you may not be well received if you visit, I would try to stay in large multicultural cities. I've never had trouble in L.A.

Answer 3

There still seems to be a lot more division on race lines in the states than the UK. If you went to a wedding say in Boston of an African-American couple you would not see any white Americans. Division is still prevalent except in the work place.

Answer 4

Well it depends where in America. There are some racist states in the South but there's racism everywhere! Even there in the UK, there will always be racism. America just makes a bigger deal out of it. I have seen many interracial relationships, just don't care what others think and live your life the way you want with no fear or care of other's perception. Who the heck cares about what other's think. I am in an interracial relationship now and I never live for anyone but myself, they hate it? Fine, I could care less. As long as i'm happy. Carry that attitude with you everywhere, in everything you do in life and nothing will matter.People are just humans like you and everyone else.

Answer 5

I've lived on the east and west coasts and have been in interracial relationships. The only time I've been called a "N-lover" is when I was leafleting for Jesse Jackson when he ran for President.

I have seen drunken idiots make comments from speeding cars, but nothing more substantial.

Unfortunately, I think interracial relationships go in and out of vogue. Sometimes it's really cool to date across racial lines; other times it's passe. I guess sometimes it's just that one human being falls in love with another and they happen to be of different racial backgrounds.

Then there are folks like Tiger Woods who shake up the whole racial dichotomy thing.

What was the question again?

Answer 6

I live in the UK and have a daughter by a Mexican - when I told my American friend I was dating a Mexican you could have just as well said 'Satan', she couldn't believe I'd date someone from Mexico, so I should imagine that Latinos also have quite a hard time in the USA.
As for my daughter, and how she is accepted, nearly all the children in her Nursery are of mixed heritage, from all over the world, only about quarter of the children are actually 'English'.
When my Mum found out I was dating a Mexican, she did mention something about 'people should stick to their own tribes' but I put that down to her ignorance and old age.

Answer 7

Personally I see no problem and I think the younger generation feels the same way mostly. There are a lot of very pretty people of mixed race--my son included(half white/half Latino). The problem is with the older generation. I am embarrassed by some of the things my parents told me when I was a kid, but I think a lot of it was ignorance on their part. As for my son-- he can fall in love with what ever race he wants to, as long as she doesn't break his heart

Answer 8

Every one would benefit from reading David Bohm's 'On Creativity' The power limitations of human thought only allows us to think in terms of what we have experienced. That may be the experience reading bad things about a particular race or group etc or having a bad experience yourself. From then on we cannot think of an individual without referencing our knowledge bank and categorising the individual in those terms.

If we can learn anything we need to learn to think.

I hope you date because you like the person not because they are purple with green spots

Answer 9

i am mixed race (black and white) and have been married to a Caucasian American. He had two kids, and people seemed surprise to see me with a Caucasian family, one person at Starbucks thought I was an exchange student (I am quite younger than my husband too :-) anyway, no one has really bothered me. We had black neighboors and all. People may think a lot of things, but I dont think they will actually say something cause there is no reason for them to.
My ex-sister in law got shocked when she found out I need to straight down my hair, and since then I have felt some 'coldness' from her towards me, but as I said, people wont say anything in so many words. My biggest problem was with my ex-husband himself, as I found out that deep at heart he considered I was 'lucky' for having married a Caucasian man, meaning: he used to think he was actually better than me.

Answer 10

There are places where interracial relationships is still looked down on......this is true not just in the South. There are ignorant people in every segment of society here.

However, for a lot of people of all races....they really don't care.