but is a friend? I have a friend that I'd like to get to know them better, but I can never think of anything to say and find myself just kinda standing there akwardly and then walking off.
2006-08-26 13:20:12 · 8 answers · asked by lawlzlawlzduck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You're not alone, they probably feel the same way.
It's important that you don't think about it too much, forget you don't know them that well and pretend you've known each other for ages. Don't be afraid to say what comes to your mind, even if it's random and seems irrelevant, it's better than the alternative as long as it isn't totally stupid or vile. If you observe the so called best conversationalists, they usually talk about one thing that interests them, or themselves or other people. You can go one step further, read about everything and anything, current affairs, all that. You can try learning about what your friend likes if you want to be unselfish. Learn to observe your surroundings, it's a useful art, there's always something going on you can talk about and it always leads to something else, a guy in a funny hat, a woman with killer shoes, a nice car, a shady looking teenager etc
Just go with the flow, be yourself. I mean it.
2006-08-26 13:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by monotol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is it you want to know about that person? Well, why not just ask? Just respect that while some people are an open book, others like to keep to themselves. You can't make that person open up if they don't want to. Share a funny story with them. Talk about something that happened in class or something your little sister said. Talk about the weather. You can find out a lot about a person in you listen when you hear what they are saying.
2006-08-26 20:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about it so much. If you guys are even remotely "friends" then you guys had to have had something in common. Say something stupid like "the weather sure is nice" maybe that will break the ice, you guys can laugh and then it should just come easily. Don't try to plan out what you are gunna say, that's just lame.
2006-08-26 20:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by shak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is it that makes this person your friend? in other words, what do the two of you have in common that brought you together in the first place? (for you to call this person your friend). go from there. if it was a mutual friend that introduced you to this person, talk about anything and you will find that that person is willing to open up and talk to you as well. if not, then this person is not really your friend, as you say. move on at that point...
2006-08-26 20:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try harder. Ask a question concerning a common subject that you need info on, then hope that things open up a bit. someone has to make the first move, lest you both wind up alone and wishing.
2006-08-26 20:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with hi how was your day. It should flow from there just be yourself and natural. Don't push or go with a list just relax and be you. You cannot go wrong there!
2006-08-26 21:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by dsmiling62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them about themselves...the one topic guraranteed to break the ice...
2006-08-26 20:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them a question about themselves and go from there
2006-08-26 20:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by prometida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋