whats the best way to tell your friend your gay?

Question

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Answer 1

say "i'm gay"

Answer 2

I doubt that you will be telling him any news what so ever...most of our friends already know, one way or another...why do you feel this is something that must be said? Does your being gay effect your relationship with your friend? I doubt it. I am quite sure you do not have sights set on him, so this would be more Non-information than information he needs. Why make an issue of a non-issue? If you do, it will come across that you doubt his trust in you as a friend. Leave it alone...there is absolutely no need to say anything. IF he is constantly talking about his bedroom antics, you may tell him that, being gay, your interest in such things isn't what his is...that is one way to stop the conversation AND let him know. But as I said, I am sure he already does know, so why bother. Good luck

Answer 3

I am sure coming out is really hard for gay people. I am straight, but I have had more than one person come out to me.

Just find the way you are most comfortable saying it, and say it.

If you have concerns, share those. It is perfectly okay to say, "There's something I want to tell you, but I am afraid it's going to harm our friendship."

Just be sure to pick a quiet time when the two of you can talk alone about it. Outing yourself at a party when there is a lot going on makes it hard for you and your friend to really talk about it.

And try not to be surprised or too hurt by reactions. Some people will be shocked, and get up and walk away, or maybe even not want to talk for a while. Other people may just laugh and tell you they have known for a while and were just waiting for you to out yourself. The thing that you need to remember is that for some people, this will be really huge news--as hard as it is for you to share that detail, it will be equally hard for them to find out.

Don't let worries about bad stuff happening scare you. I know an awful lot of homosexual people, and I know of very few instances where coming out has ruined a relationship.

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Answer 4

First, make sure you can trust your friend. Once you tell him/her, you can't take it back. They might use it as a weapon against you. If you really think you can trust this person, go somewhere that you both feel comfortable. Then say something like, "I have to tell you something important. Can I trust you?" And they will, hopefully, say yes. And you tell them that for a long time you've known you are different from everyone around you, and you have realized you're gay, and that you don't want this to change anything between you, but they need to know because it's an important part of who you are. Then let them ask questions. It can be scary, but most of the time it will bring you closer to your friend. Good luck!

Answer 5

If you're gay, just let your friend know that since he or she is someone you trust and respect, you'd rather he/she trusted and respected the real you, including those pieces of you you've been hiding away. If someone really enjoys your company, has affection for you as a friend and already respects and trusts you, they will continue to do so, no matter however (and with whomever) you choose to spend your romantic experiences. Have a little faith in your friends. If they deke out, they weren't worth your precious time in the first place.

Answer 6

I would just find a place where there's not a lot of people around because you don't know how they react. Just tell them straight up and honestly. The longer you keep the "secret" away from them, they could go through conclusions that you are not a loyal friend or whatnot. If they are your friends, they would accept who you are! There's no problem of being gay in my perspective. =)

Answer 7

Chances are real good your friend already knows. So basically, why does it matter if you come out and tell your friend? Will it change the relationship or who you are? Leave well enough alone and enjoy having your friend be a friend.

My nephew spent so much time worrying that his dad might find out he was gay that he was making himself sick and depressed over it.

I told him that his dad knew a long time ago, probably even before he did??

He loves him just as he is....his son.

Answer 8

well when I did it... I basically just sat him down... and I said that contrary to popular belief... I am not the man you think I am. I am a man who likes men. It is not a sin... it is not an issue it who I am... take it or leave it... Ive been gay for years...


My friend said... that's cool... I love gay people... I figured you were gay.


it was a major burden lifted off my shoulders!



(by the way this is Mervelash's brother)

Answer 9

Why do you want to tell my friend I'm gay? I'm not gay.

He hee...just kidding. I know you meant that as generic "you."

How about...tell him, "Hey let's meet at this bar," and you give him the directions to the place. Then he meets you at the bar, and it happens to be a gay bar. When he says, "What the...is this place?" You just give him a strange look in his eyes for like seven seconds without saying anything. He'll know.

Answer 10

Say," I really don't know what there is wrong about being gay, do you?" And he'll say,"you know, I really don't either." You say, "gee, really, why don't we try it and find out what it's all about?" Then you fondle each other and see what happens. Guaranteed if you get that far you'll be packing fudge in a mutually happy way soon after.

Answer 11

There isn't a best way in telling him/her. However, if this person is a true friend, it shouldn't be a problem. One of my good friends' told me she was gay, we were at a dance club, and I saw her kiss another girl...........not like u would kiss a regular friend............I was shocked!!! She is still one of my best friends.