WHY DO PEOPLE MARRY? is it for the sex? the fear of being lonely?

Answer 1

Maybe it's because they love each other.

Answer 2

People marry for many different reason. For me, it was neither sex nor the fear of being lonely. 1) You don't have to be married to have sex and 2) being alone is kinda nice. I married because I found the perfect guy and we had the most amazing connection. We felt at home with each other and greatly enjoyed each others company. We married because we were in love, became best friends, and made each other extremely happy.

Answer 3

This is a great question. I think some people here have not really thought about it much--like, "it's for love, duh!" Well, you can have love in your life without marriage. Love is not a sufficient reason to get married.

Really, I think, it is a social structure designed to attempt to keep someone loving you--to keep that special feeling--for as long as possible. But don't get me wrong--there is nothing wrong with that! But I think it does boil down to wanting that security on a subconscious level. There are also additional legitimate reasons--you don't want to grow old alone, you want to have kids (more acceptable under marriage), companionship, social acceptance. While social mores in some societies really do not permit having sex before marriage, I doubt that anyone gets married just for the sex. Most married people will tell you that the excitement of sex was better before marriage.

Answer 4

This is not a question to be asked so generally, we all have different reasons why we have married.

In the old age, it was a social conventionalism. You either married or joined a Holy Order. Nobility and royalty would arrange marriages as part of business mergers (and some families usually in oriental societies) still arrange marriages. In the Western world in he past 100 years, most people marry for love. Generationally, younger people marry either for love, or to get away from an abusive household. As they get older and realize what life is about, then financial considerations come into the picture, especially for those who marry at an older age.

Fear of loneliness is a common reason to marry especially for those people who never were able to develop a healthy sense of self, most likely due to abuse in their household. Such people never got an education who would afford them the opportunity to support themselves, so marriage was the way out of both loneliness and destitution.

And this is exactly what I didn't intend to do, but this is a question that cannot be answered without generalizing, when it shouldn't be, because the reasons are as complex as individuals are.

Answer 5

To me getting married means none of the above. It is about wanting to remain with your significant other forever. Having that paper saying that you are bonded by marriage. If it were sex you can get that without being married. Who turns down sex nowadays? lol. As far as the fear of being lonely, even married people feel lonely at times. Sometimes people emotioanlly drift apart. Marriage is something that symbolizes one love, eternity and devotion, but many people get divorced but i'm talking aobut people who remain together no matter what. Getting married is a big step b/c it's someone who you can see yourself being with gfor the long haul, someone that you can see being there and no one else taking that place.

Answer 6

I married my husband because we love each other. We're the best of friends. I have never been as compatible with anyone else as I am with him. It's not for sex or the fear of being lonely. Far from it.

Answer 7

Human beings like companionship and most don't like to be alone. If it were not for laws set up by the government pertaining to benefits, there really is no reason to get married. Think about this. People that are married can receive social security benefits if one spouse dies. That is money paid into social security by that individual over the years they work. For some people that adds up to be a lot of money over a lifetime. If you don't have a spouse, the money goes to the government if you die. Don't you think the government gets enough of our money as it is?

Answer 8

People get married for a lot of reasons:
1 - Commitment
2 - Love
3 - Friendship
4 - Caring Relationship
5 - To have children
6 - To be with someone who knows you intimately
7 - To have companionship
8 - To be able to look at them and know that you are the luckiest person in the world because they are in your life

This coming from a recently divorced woman who knows marriage is worth it!

Answer 9

Speaking only for myself, I married my husband because I could not see walking this earth without him by my side. I did not want to wake up and not see his face first thing in the morning. I didnt want to get great news and not have him there to share it with. Most of all, I could not see wrapping my arms around anyone else and feeling the way I do each and every time I hold him.

Answer 10

I think they marry for all of those reasons. They marry because they don't want to end up alone in life, they marry for someone safe to have sex partner, they marry because they want to be around someone with similar likes and dislikes.

For me, the most important reason to marry is LOVE. If I love someone I want to spend all my time with them. I want to grow old with them. I cannot imagine my life without them in it. The only way to satisfy this longing is to marry them.

Answer 11

Some people get married for the wrong reasons, and I guarantee that it will never work out in the end. Marriage should be for love only.