my friend falls in love with her student who advanced on her first sometime ago. No sexual relationship but purely care and support. She now left for another school because everybody in school knew about it. She is missing him like hell. The student is doing his AS level and has started dating another girl of the same age. My friend is 7 years older and already has a boyfriend. any advice?
2006-08-26 12:52:31 · 22 answers · asked by Ruth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time and tide will heal the slight wound that has been left; and your friend took the right road in doing what she did:excellent! Now she needs to take time to take another deep breath; and get on with it: moving on can be difficult; but she already knows that, and the more she gets her attention onto new ventures, the better off she'll be! Wishing her luck, via you!
2006-08-26 13:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what was that 16 and a 23 year old?
Not immoral pretty normal for those in early 20s to date those in mid teens and not in a pervey way... no different to any other relationship especailly if the older one was a late starter or shy etc.
However schools dont like it and have silly rule systems when all thats needed is to check for manipulation, balckmail or auwanted attention etc and if the relationship was genuine All I would do is remove the power relaltionship ie see to it she could not mark or discipline him or vica versa as I see things in romantic terms whether teacher or not...
Thing is the relationship is over and he has a new girlfriend so treat her like any frined with lost love... ie take her out to eye up boys, male stippers, get drunk, makeover , girlie stuff.
As guys would do for a mate with lost love or got dumped.
To be a peado or abuser you have to want to control or hurt someon who does not want the attention regardless of who
2006-08-26 16:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly speaking, it's bad to fall in love with your student,but we do not have control over love all the time,sometimes it comes on is own.meanwhile it possible to get married to a student if only there is an equal love.But in this case your student is already going out with a fellow mate,so your idea of leaving the school is the best for you now.
2006-08-26 13:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like they are already moving on. Its perfectly natural to miss someone you have an emotional bond with. She'll get over it.
And besides, she has no business messing with a student. She did the right thing by leaving the school.
2006-08-26 12:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend(OR IS IT YOU!!)should know better!There is enough of this stuff in the papers and on the news,its ALL bad,not good.There are morals,principals and a duty of care to the children here,as there is right across the education system,so perhaps "your friend" should re-acquaint herself with the rules and regulations regarding pupil/teacher-teacher/pupil relationships,otherwise i can only think that this will all end in tears,in court,in prison,in the papers and on the news,BEWARE!!
2006-08-26 14:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this college level? If they are meant to be together they will reconnect one day. If they are both older than 18 and she is not his teacher, what is wrong with them dating? Now she is at another school why don't they get back in touch?
2006-08-26 12:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is doing the right thing by getting away from him and saving her career. It is unethical to date a student and as time goes on, she will realize that it was just a momentary lapse in judgement.
2006-08-26 12:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pedophiles belong in prisons, not schools. This "friend" (what a clever disguise for yourself) needs psychological help. She is a predator, and the student is a victim.
2006-08-26 12:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...Just keep being a friend and supporting her....
If she has fallen for him, does that mean she doesn't love her boyfriend? Maybe you should try to get her to dump him too and find a new, exciting love of her own age?
2006-08-26 23:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by Been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad idea you not fallin in love you are close to a mature student and if thats the case you need to keep yourself away because whatever you feel could get serious and that is not goot for you image
2006-08-26 12:57:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely cryz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋