I don't want to be mean to her, it's just that I am not attracted to her and I am attracted to a friend of hers. What do I do in this situation? And I know there are gonna be some who say "threesome" because they're too lazy and dumb to answer this seriously--- so don't.
2006-08-26 12:51:28 · 42 answers · asked by TheBillBrothers 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would be honest with her. She will probably be disappointed, but it is better to tell her the truth. She Will respect you for your honesty after she gets over her disappointment. You can be tactful in how you say it. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-26 12:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for being sensitive enough to realize that you don't take advantage of the situation and that this problem needs to be addressed. First of all you need to be absolutely sure that this girl likes you in the way that you thinks she does, otherwise this could create a very embarrassing situation. If you are sure, y ou must be honest with your feelings, because you don't want to appear to lead her on, or give a false impression which would hurt her more. If you can continue to be friends great, but if there is some awkwardness after wards you will need to explain this and simply move one.
2006-09-03 11:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Always act appropriately. These things occur in life & how you handle the situation is what counts.
2. Avoid PDAs (Public Displays of Affection) in front of the unrequited friend — it just thrust the knife in deeper. It's also juvenile. You don't want that. You have plenty of time for affection on dates, alone with eachother.
3. Now that you are a twosome, the friend can be invited to group activities or double dates. She does not go on your dates. Inappropriate.
4. Always be nice, because she has to learn how to handle disappointment as an adult, like all of us. Eventually, she will be over you. Her attitude will noticeably be changed toward you.
Good luck and warm regards.
2006-09-03 05:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is tricky, because if they are really good friends, the one you like may not want a relationship with you to affect their friendship and so turn you down anyway. You need to be subtle about this. Try and "accidentally" bump into the friend and have a soda together or just talk, no date or anything, and see if you actually have a chance with her. That way it will be one of those things that "just happened" and no one gets hurt or embarrassed.
2006-09-03 10:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threesome?
2006-09-03 01:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shes not the girl who wrote the last question is she ??
IMHO be honest with everyone. if you dont like the girl the way she likes you, tell her - gently. It may hurt her but it would hurt her more to find out some other way, or if you just let things drift.
if you like her friend- you would be really dumb to move in on her, before telling the first girl, lest you lose them both
( or dont mind getting kicked in the balls )
2006-09-02 23:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by TOP DOG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that now is not a good time for you guys to hook up.....because you have strong feelings for a mutual friend....tell her you still want to be friends w/her and maybe in the future the time will be right for you guys to hook up.....this is a tough situation but try to be as undertanding and sincere as possible and things will turn out for the best....good luck!!!
2006-09-03 05:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by Rayvenangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the girl that liek you that it means a lot to you that she likes you because you like her too and tell her you like her as much as you can a friend. then find somethings that are great about her like tell her she's really sweet but you just cant move past being friends. then after a week or so tell her that you would like to date her friend and tell her you came to her first before doing anything because you would never want to hurt her and respect her feelings. Because she does really liek you and wants you to be happy she'll tell you its ok to date her friend. then ask her friend out but always make time you see your friend that like you so she doesnt feel replaced as your friend and let the girl you like know that you want to hang out with the other girl as a friend. Just dont tell your friend about everything you and the girl you like do but go to your friend if you two are having a problem so she still knows you care about what she thinks. i hope this helps and good luck. post something if it does. bye bye!
2006-08-26 13:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is be totally honest with her about how you feel, if she can't except the truth it is her loss not yours. relationships cant work without honesty and trust. l know this first hand believe me lies hurt alot more than truth especially if you are on the recieving end. hopefully she will see how up front you are being with her and you will score some points with the girl you really like. GOOD LUCK. hope all works out for you.
2006-09-03 12:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, i have been there and i'll tell you what i did and everything worked out great. i have a good friend that wanted to be more than friends with me but i liked her cousin. so one might the girl i wanted to be with came over and told me about how sherry felt about me. so belieing in honesty, i called sherry and told her i was coming over to talk, and i did and i told her how i felt about her and i just did not have the same sort of feeling toward her as she did for me. we had been friends along time and i told her how nuch she meant to me as a very close friend and she accepted that and i told her how i felt about her cousin. man, just be honest about it, lead no one on ever. no matter what happens
2006-08-26 13:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by strummersworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋