I already live with my boyfriend. we have been living together for 9 mos. we moved in together with the intention of getting married by the end of the year. he has 3 baby mama's. he owes out a lot of money., and can't afford a ring. would you marry him without the ring?
2006-08-26 12:49:23 · 21 answers · asked by alissa g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
XXXXXXXX sorry, I wouldn't marry a man with 3 baby mommas. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-08-26 12:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to think about the whole 3 baby's mama's situation before I consider marrying him. Sounds like he has enough responsibility before you can claim him being yours even in marriage. You know he owes the money, are you willing to foot ALL the bills before and after a wedding? And what makes you think he is not going to skip out on you if you become baby's mama number 4?
Rings don't make a marriage, the love and truthfulness has to be there. THINK about what you are about to do...
2006-08-26 12:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mary D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A ring does not mean everything. But he has a lot of other things going on in his life. He has children by three different women and his finances are JACKED up. If you marry him that will become your problem as well. With all the things that you have described do you think his financial and child situation will get better or worse? You need to ask yourself that question more than worrying about the ring.
2006-08-26 12:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
F the ring girlfriend! You need to quit while you're ahead. No man is worth any drama or pain. Ask yourself why he has 3 bm's. Then decide if you're really willing to be the 4th! He's probably only with you to get out of the responsibility of taking care of the first litter! No matter what he says! My baby's dad owes me 5 years of child support. He can't even afford to keep a place, a car, or a cell phone activated! Yeah, he's the epitomy of a dead beat dad. He can't even send birthday or christmas gifts. Do you want to be in my shoes? Let me save you the hassle. Drop him like a dime. Please, break the cycle!
2006-08-26 12:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get married until you can afford to get married. He must be a dead beat dad if he owes alot of money. I would think twice about it if I were you.
2006-08-26 12:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by daydreambeliever0000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you born stupid or did you evolve to it?? He has 3 kids with 3 different women?? What is the matter with you??? Man, you are going to get what you ask for if you stay with this assshole. Getting a ring is the very very least of your worries, sweetie! Geeeze!!!! Stop whining!
2006-08-26 12:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady, he's got a WHOLE LOT BIGGER problems than a ring! He's got 3 strikes against him already, so the question is do you want to be repsonsible for paying for his 3 illegitimate children?
2006-08-26 12:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry him without a ring. Don't you end up paying for it either, b/c if you have to buy your own wedding ring will you be paying his child support too?
2006-08-26 12:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by dixiepixie1976 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think You need a ring to get married but are you sure he wants that are another Child????
2006-08-26 12:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would but u need some other way for him to show that he is really committed to u
another thing is that i think that ur rushing into this marriage thing a lil too fast
he owes a lot of money and has some babies, u need to wait until he has everything straight
2006-08-26 12:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 Baby Mommas!? Wow! You could never get ahead in life starting off in the negative! Don't marry him or become his 4th Baby Momma! Run....fast!
2006-08-26 12:55:25 · answer #11 · answered by twinkii27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋