i'm dpressed, lonely, sad, and i've been told plenty of times, i have a negative of thinking.anyways..........

Question

how can i be more positve when goods things almost never happen to me, i wait and wait, and nothing, i asked help earlier on here because i have depression, i should have clarify that i'm going to start college soon, but it'll be a community college, i will be starting rotc with OSU (ohio state university) and i will be able to get into games for free, i know there i will meet new people and stuff, i'll most likey still be living at home, anyways, taking classes @ osu and doing rotc with them is the only thing i'm looking forward to, all my freinds have left for their dream college, i think the fact that i have about 2 years before i can go to my dream college is really, really depressing me and boys, i haven't been in a relationship in a while and the guys i like never seem to like me back like i want them to, ANY ADVICE would be great:)

i ment to say i have a neg. way of thinking and i ment to spell depressed

Answer 1

Go to an orphanage, 3rd world country, and/or a homeless soup kitchen and look at life thru new eyes.

You have it much better than most of the world.

Answer 2

The first thing I advise you to do is stop waiting for something to happen to you.....make it happen. You'll be waiting a very long time if you think that's how good things occur! You get back what you give out. If you'll put some positive energy into something you'll get rewards, believe me. Life and love won't just drive into your livingroom, pick you up, and take you off. Anything good and positive takes effort. People make their own luck and good fortune. Instead of moping about how you won't be at your dream college for 2 years, think about all you'll have a chance to do before you get there. Get involved in things. Lose that negative attitude and join others in enjoying life. Put out the effort and it will come back to you tenfold. Life is too short to give up at such an early age. YOU can make a difference.

Answer 3

You need to talk to an specialist, find what your problem is, maybe you just need some medicine, take advantage of modern medicine it could change your life.

This its going to sound crazy but, stop being on the web for sooo long, get yourself out there, exercise, join a club of something you like, and be positive please! everytime you are having negative thoughts let them pass and turn them around into positive things.

Is there anyone in your family that you can talk to? that would help too...

Life is too short dont waist it, then when you get old you are going to regret it.

good luck

Answer 4

they got these things called anti-depressants. And drugs for obbsessive compulsive disorder. most doc will tell you being in a relationship has nothing to do with an underlying depression

Answer 5

Talk to your doctor. Meds are nothing to be ashamed of, neither is community college.

Answer 6

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People and societies endeavour to liberate themselves from the distressing experiences, disorder and repressive social structures that have prevailed over the world for long periods. We only need to glance at ancient Greece; the Great Roman Empire; Tsarist Russia, or the so-called Age of Enlightenment, and even the 20th century-a century of misery which saw two world wars and world-wide social disasters. No matter upon which century or location you concentrate your research, the picture will not be appreciably different.
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