Is life just one really big scam?

Question

Everything nowadays is so manipulative, brainwashing, information hidden from us, everybody has their own personal agenda to control other people no matter what, the economy sucks (no jobs where I live) and now I have to pay off my college loans which I cant because I still have no decent job ( I am NOT going to walmart for a job!!) ANY advice on how to deal with these issues....I feel cheated by my life in general....

Answer 1

Life is what you make of it. If a job at Walmart is all you can get right now, then don't be too stuck up to take it. Things could be alot worse...you could be on disability or have serious life threatening health issues. People need to learn to be appreciative of what they have. Things will never be perfect. When you start appreciating what you have, things will be better.

Answer 2

Stop feeling so sorry for yourself. It's a downer for you and everybody around you.

Life is a series of choices and personal attitude. Do not blame the world for choices that you have made, willingly. It sounds like you've brainwashed yourself into depression.

You chose to accept the loans. No job is too small to start paying them off. Rarely does an individual begin at the top. When you say "no" to an opportunity, you've closed another door to future possibilities. You've got to build up a resume.

Don't be a deadbeat. Get off your duff and come up with a positive plan. It doesn't have to be for a lifetime. It could just be short term goals.

If I were you, I'd move. If you are in a dead end community, move to a more prosperous one. Use your education! What did you plan to do with it?

The world does not owe you a living. It's up to you to go out and earn it. Sitting around criticizing and doing nothing is not building a future.

What are your gifts and talents? Where can you use them? Do a little research, get some advice, and start moving forward. Good luck!

Answer 3

No, life is actually a wonderful thing. But we all have periods of time when it seems like we are in a big deep pit, with no way out, and it sounds as if you are in that sort of place right now. So here a few things to consider:
Make connections with other people. Although there are plenty of examples of people who are manipulative and selfish, the majority of people really are decent. When I was a kid, my family moved frequently because of my dad's job, and while I hated having to leave my friends and my familiar environment, I did learn that there were good people everywhere. I tended to by somewhat shy, but I soon realized that if I waited for someone else to make the first move, I might be waiting awhile, so I forced myself to smile and say hello to at least 3 people each day. Almost everyone smiled back, many engaged me in conversation, and I made friends at each new location. And having people to socialize with makes life seem so much more bearable.
Another thing that I have learned is that when you are overwhelmed by a sense of hopelessness, the "big picture" just adds to your feeling of helplessness. You won't climb out of a big deep hole in one day, but if you just take one step toward the top, you will get there. Some days you may slide back a bit, but don't worry about how long it will take - just decide what one step you can take, and take it. Maybe your step will be to make one phone call or email about a job each day. Maybe you can find a temp agency and get a couple of day's work. Maybe you need to do some research and see what other areas are not as economically depressed as the one you live in, and look into relocating.
You didn't say how old you are, but since you have college loans to deal with, I am guessing you are maybe in your 20s. That can be a tough time, because you are coming to grips with all the responsiblities of adult life, and let's face it, sometimes it's a major pain in the hiney. But the other great thing about being young is that it's the perfect time to take a chance. If you don't have house payments or kids to worry about yet, open yourself to life's adventures. I had been a middle class kid growing up, but when I graduated from college with a teaching credential, I moved to the mountains of West Virginia. Wow, was that ever an experience! I didn't make much money, but it was enough to live on and to give me a wealth of experience, both as a teacher and as a human being. Living with people who had spent their lives in poor and isolated communities really opened my eyes to how fortunate I had been all my life, even when I felt sorry for myself for having to move so much.
So another suggestion is to give of yourself. You do have plenty to offer, and you will feel good when you do something that helps another person. You will learn a lot in the process, too. Although I spent only 2 years living in Appalachian poverty, I will always remember what it was like. I never realized, for example, how much harder bad weather is when you are poor, or how great it is to have a flush toilet, or how good mac & cheese tastes when you are really really hungry. We all have some rough patches in our lives, but some people have it a lot worse.
So much of life is the result of our own choices. And that includes choosing how to react to the situations we find ourselves in. When you are in a situation where you are really unhappy, make a decision to change the situation. Like I said earlier, just make one small step each day, and don't worry about how far you have to go; just take the next step. And when you can't change your situation as quickly as you would like, change your attitude about it. Find the things that you can be grateful for, like the fact that you are intellegent and did have the opportunity for a higher education, and you are presumably healthy, and you have a computer with Internet access, and you are probably not hungry, and you no doubt have people who love you....
Have faith in yourself, and have faith that even though there are certainly ugly people in the world, most of us are pretty good. Life is sure not perfect, but it can be pretty darned good, and I just have a feeling that you are going to find a satisfying life.

Answer 4

Go to MonsterJobs or Hotjobs or any of the large online job finding services, and search for something in your field there. You may need to move if there is nothing in your local area.

-Dio

Answer 5

Dont be so pessimist my dear friend.
Life has so much to offer, just search !
I have no intension of manipulating you, trust me !

Confucius say: Life is a drama for those who FEEL,
Life is a comedy for those who THINK !

You may thank me one day.

Answer 6

I am just going to answer the first question. Life is just one big pyramid scheme. If you are on top, then you win. Otherwise, well, you work at Wal Mart.

Answer 7

You're pretty accurate about that but my daughter works in sales and is going to college. You have to start somewhere.

Answer 8

if you view your life like that then there's a big chance that your life is a scam!! but life itself is not.. try to seek the Giver of Life and you'll know everything about you want to know..

Answer 9

You are immersed in negative thinking which will eventually kill you, slowly or fast depending. If you can't see your way to change your thinking to possibility positive thinking, you're doomed.

Answer 10

dont give up still stick to college ,the worst has come,only good can come(if that makes since) :)