I love my boys so much and sometimes when I look at them I just want to hug them and kiss them. I kiss them when I drop them off at school. I kiss them when I tuck them in at night for bed. My ex says I'm making them soft. My father was never around and my mom was never the loving type. If I hugged her and told her I loved her, she'd think I was about to ask her for something. I just want my boys to always know that I love them. If anything were to ever happen to me, I want their last memories of me to be hugs and kisses and telling them I love them. I have their pictures everywhere. My sister says I love my kids too much. I didn't thik that was possible. She thinks I need a schrink because I'm projecting my feelings onto my kids. I thought I was being a good mother. Am I wrong? I don't want to ruin them, I just want them to feel loved always.
2006-08-26 12:01:20 · 11 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS LOVING YOUR CHILDREN TOO MUCH!! Your ex is worried about them being soft because they are boys!! I kiss my girls everyday all day!! I make a game of it also...(shame!) there are days when things are rushed and they go off to school or the sitters without a kiss from me (I'm praying to God to bring them home safely so I can kiss them) as soon as they get in the car i say "whoever didn't get a kiss from me better come get it, if not you have to eat a whole plate of asparagus and liver!! They bombard me with kisses and i love you!!! Also, instill them to love one another and always trust each other no matter what. I tell my girls that they should trust each other more than they trust me! You are right about the memories, they will always remember you!!
2006-08-26 18:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by marie167 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old your kids are, but my boy is 14 and for the most part, he will still give me a kiss good-bye, but only around his best friends. I always made it a point to hug and kiss him and remind him how much I love him. He was always told that he could talk to me about anything and I would not hold it against him. He is turning out to be a fine young man who makes good decisions and treats girls with respect. I am a single parent and have been since he was 2 years old.
2006-08-26 19:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by hey_baby138 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Describes my childhood, hehe. Im the same way with my kids...arent they lucky!!!???
My boys are 10 and 12 and we have a great, sweet, loving and kind bond! Hopefully, your sons will look for a wife who possesses the same qualities to project onto your grandkids.
No time like the present to break the chain of parents who were cold or lacking in a good bond and loving ways. You're A okay in my book!! God bless you!!
2006-08-26 19:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to love your children, but for it to be healthy there have to be some boundaries and limitations. You want what is best for them in life I know, so understand that they need enough space away from you to grow correctly. They need to make mistakes to learn, and to deal with the consequences so when they are adultd they are not running to you to fix everything. Read some books on child/parent relationships, that is a loving thing to do for your children; also read books on codependency to avoid unhealthy relationships
2006-08-26 19:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I absolutley disagree that you can love your children too much. There is nothing at all wrong with expressing your love to your kids. The way and places you express it can be sometimes detrimental to their social life though. If they are older, I wouldn't hug and kiss them in front of their friends, but if you want to hug them at night thats fine. Your children undoubtedly know that you loove them unconditionally and you dont have to express it every 5 minutes. Its fine when they are younger but when they get older, respect their decision of privacy from intimacy with you. But there is nothing wrong with loving your kids and I'm 100% positive that they know you love them. I hope this helps.
~reb
2006-08-26 19:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by rebekah u 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you describe doesn't seem out of line - there are a lot worse things than loving your kids! If your goal with them is to be a good mother, then you probably are.
If you are really concerned that you might be overdoing it, you can talk to someone whose opinion you trust (minister ? counsellor ? grandparent ?) to give you a fair assessment. You probably aren't getting one from an ex-husband who doesn't want his boys to be "soft" and a sister raised by the mother you describe.
2006-08-26 19:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by AmericanDreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ten yrs ago I might answer this completely difffernt but where I live now the young are dying in the battle fields of the street if that doent take them then drugs do love and hold on to your babies as long as possible ,let them know you love them and dont let a day go by with telling them hopefully they will live long and spread the same love to thier children / you are a good mom
2006-08-26 19:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by rev frank 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful.. just like a lack of attention will force a kid to want more... too much attention will force a kid away. You have to try to keep this all in check or you may find that your kids are wanting to mature and grow up but it's difficult when you're smothering them.
Though, it is good to hear that there are people out there who care about their kids.
2006-08-26 19:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU ARE NOT WRONG FOR LOVING YOUR KIDS. I KISS AND HUG MINE ALL THE TIME. THAT IS ONE OF THE TEN COMMANDMENTS WAS TO LOVE. YOU KEEP ON LOVING YOUR BOYS, THEY WILL GROW UP KNOWING WHAT LOVE IS ABOUT. SO DO NOT LET ANYBODY TELL YOU OTHER WISE. GOD IS LOVE.
2006-08-26 19:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't love your kids too much! You care for them a lot and that's awesome! It's a shame more parents out there don't care for their kids enough.
2006-08-26 19:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by kong 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋