after one to many times of my husband walking away & nunning to his mom's house. i said no more. he told me he was gonna get my kids. he dint pay bills , we lost our business, we got kicked out of our house. he did everything he could to take everything away from me. i ended up in a hospital for depression. and this is what he now has on me, tha judge give him temp.cus. of our two kids. 5 & 2, she even let him take our kids out of state. he has not let me see them in 21 days. my 5 yr. is having a hard time he wants to see me, he wants to come home. he crying everytime i talk to him,. my husband doesnt answer my phone calls. so i dont get to talk to my kids every nite:( frinday , aug. 18th, my baby girl's & mine birthday, he didnt came back to the state, i dint see her for her birthday and they didnt see me for my. not only me, but thier older brother and older sissters. which are with me. cant find a job. i was able to get us an apartment, monday we move there. can anyone help me, pls
2006-08-26 12:00:51 · 11 answers · asked by la_shakita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hire an attorney if you haven't already.
Seriously, this is a clear cut case of manipulation and deceit of the court system. If you present these facts to a lawyer, he or she will undoubtedly tell you there is an obvious way to see your children again.
It sounds like this fella controlled you in some of the worst ways possible. I know you probably already realize this is emotional abuse, but things of this nature are cyclical. Stand up and recognize no one can abuse you and get away with it unless you let them.
Hire that attorney, go over the details of the things you've summarized. Develop a game plan. Control the things you can. Right now, as terrible as it is, there is little you can do to keep your children from being upset. But don't let your husband gain any more leverage for keeping them away from you by hesitating to act. Sitting on your hands, doing nothing, is the best way to show you accept what the judge ordered.
2006-08-27 06:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by skittles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ill try to help you but I dont think youre going to like my answer so I apologize for it but its the law. Child custody involving two different states is not easy. The law cannot force him to return to your state to face a custody hearing like in a criminal case.The reason the judge gave your husband the children in the first place is not an easy one to overcome either. If and this is a big if, you can get a court date, the burden of proof is on you to prove your better via Drs reports. This will probably cost you plenty and there is no guarantee that you will get your kids back no matter what you do, even if he does volunteerily show up. Wish I could tell you something more promising but other then him being charged with child abuse in his state, there really isnt much you can do, sorry
2006-08-26 12:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I know that an attorney would definetly help and I could give you better advice if I know what state you were in, most states will provide a lawyer if you cant afford one for these cases, but know this if he is living out of state for 6 weeks or more he can claim to be a resident of that state and your chances drop a lot.
2006-08-26 12:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Cory H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this, how horrible. Some lawyers do free services I heard. This is good for their reputation. I'd check for lawyers in your local phone book.
2006-08-26 12:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different service that will help you at no charge.Look in your phone book for legal services.I hope that everything works out for you and your family.Maybe you should pray and seek GOD for the right answers.
2006-08-26 12:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, but you definitely need the services of a lawyer to be able to have custody of your two kids.
2006-08-26 12:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to get a job ,,then toy need to get a place of your own, this will show the judge you are capable of taking care of the kids, good luck and pray to God for help
2006-08-26 12:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get free leagl advice from local court house.
2006-08-26 12:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get legal help from legal aid, sign up for food stamps, and get help from your local woman's crisis center
2006-08-26 12:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look for legal aid in your phone book
2006-08-26 12:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋