I'm in love with a girl but my parents never let me go or do anything with her what should i do?

Question

I'm 13 and she's 14 but in my grade my parents refuse to get to know her for some reason they think we'll do something stupid together. i get in trouble for giving her a goodbye hug or saying i love you and i dont get what the big deal is. what if this turns out to be a lasting relationship we both love eachother very very much and the most we have done is kissed (only once both of our first kisses) and neither of us ever do bad stuff.. i am really really confused please someone help me out

oo and this relationship has been going on for soon to be 3 months i really think this is love whenever we are together it feels like the most amazing thing in the world

oo and there for those of you who think i'm just wasting my time how do you know that i wont end up being with this girl forever and i think i can have a girlfriend and do other things to currently i have a 4.0 in all hightract classes and i play football, baseball, and basketball all on competitive levels so i think i can handle this

Answer 1

You're too young to be in love. And more than likely, it won't be a lasting relationship. I know that's not what you want to hear, but that's the cold, hard truth of the adult and dating world.

Your parents are just trying to protect you from dating too early. And 13 is WAY too early. I didn't have my first date till I was 15. 16 for my first kiss. There's nothing wrong with waiting. Don't rush it!

Answer 2

Don't listen to the other answers. I'm 14 and both myself and my father believe that once you start becoming sexually attracted to the opposite (or same, I guess,,,) sex, you can fall in love. It's not young love, or any of that crap. Some 13, 14, 15, 16 year olds are a whole lot more mature than in the past. I know how you feel. I promise, what you should do is present your argument well to your parents. Ask them what the problem is with liking (don't say loving, they won't take you seriously) this girl. Whatever they say, tell them that you really like the girl and that you'd be happy if they would let you go out now and again. Tell them that you won't do anything you'll regret, or that you won't do anything illegal. You sound pretty mature for your age, James, and you need to tell your parents that. Your parents are trying to protect you, and are not ready for this age: the age where you want a bit more independence, and a bit more privacy and freedom. They are having a hard time letting their little boy go.... it was the same with my mother, she found it incredibly difficult to let go of her little girl and realise that I'm growing up and that I am beginning to need her by my side less and less. It's a change for the better and your parents will need to realise that. Do what you can, and good luck.

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Answer 3

Because focusing on school and your future is more important right now than worrying about a long term relationship. You should be allowed to date, maybe when you're 14, but not see anyone seriously until you're well on your way becoming the best at your passion in life. And there's no reason you can't have sexual partners along the way as well, as long as you don't get too attached or tied down with babies. Maybe your parents didn't give you as much love as you need to love yourself and you want to find some girl who'll give you that, but I'm telling you, you have to find it in yourself, love for yourself, and that comes from the happiness and pride of accomplishing your goals.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with your feelings or hers'.
You need to give the ' rents a break. Think about how they are trippin' about a thirteen yr. old saying I love you to his fourteen yr. old girlfriend.
Your still a young man. I know that sucks but having a good paying job to support your girlfriend while living on your own. That sucks even more.
Your folks can't be stupid. Unless they beat you or are verbally abusive, they want you to learn what love and relationships are about until you begin to have them.
The weird thing about life is - it's on the job training.
I'm not promoting you having sex with her. Ya know, the bad stuff.
Realize one thing. Kids who are eleven are very immature compared to someone thirteen, right?Just imagine how mature you will be at eighteen, looking back at when you were thirteen.
You love. That is good. Just keep learning and you'll find that your ability to love another without anything physical gets you closer to the love that your parents have for you, unconditional.
Ya, it's alota YADA,YADA,YADA.
Keep your love. Otherwise you will never truethfully have compassion for another.
You are at the best time of your life. Enjoy the discoveries you encounter and always communicate with your folks. They did everything a million years before you have.

Answer 5

I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from. When by soon-to-be-husband and I were 13, we went from being the best of friends to a couple (we were each others firsts)...and you think we had told everybody we were going to rob a bank, with all the negative feedback we got. His parents would yell at us for giving a hug goodbye, or kissing each other on the cheek, and holding hands was a deffinite no-no. It was riduculous. We went from seeing each other nearly every day, to only being allowed to see each other once a week at church - and we were only allowed to spend one-on-one time together twice a month! It was hell, because we both knew that we loved each other and that we were going to be together forver...but no one believe us, and kept telling us we couldn't possibly know what love was. It hurt us over and over again. But, as the years went by and people saw that we still cared deeply about each other, even when we could only spend time together twice a month, then they let up. By the time we got our drivers licenses, we were allowed to date...and after 4 1/2 years of being together, he proposed - and we have a November wedding planned out for next year. It can be done...but you've got to know what it is you want, and have to be patient and strong. His parents knew me very well...we had grown up together, and we irresapable. I think they were just afraid that they knew if we were to get serious, that it would be the real deal. I've talked to his parents about how the treated us in the begining before, and they told me that they were just afraid of their son being hurt. I'm guessing thats how your parents feel too. However, it's no excuse to belittle your emotions. Try sitting them down and talking to them...tell them that you promise that no lines will be crossed, and that you will always respect her. You have every intention of keeping up your grades and friends, and just want to spend time with her. Maybe try to reach a compromise...they back off of you hugging if you promise not to always seperate yourself from people. Things like that.
In the mean time, write each other love letters and e-mails...we wrote each other a love letter every other day, and we have them all. Talk on the phone. And remember...if this is real, you will last. Best wishes to you both!

Answer 6

the reason it's like this is because your parents think you are too young, and they are scared to let you go. They see what goes on outside of the house, and they have a hard time believing you won't do something like that. Plus, your just a kid. Your in love with the image of love. I'm only fifteen and I don't think we really understand what love is yet.

Answer 7

I've heard it so many times from MY parents, i guess parents, don't want you to grow up yet, you're still there little boy well at least in there eyes. don't listen to other people that say it's puppy love and ****, and it isn't true love or love,love. you know how you feel about that person and you don't need anyone telling you what you feel and don't feel about anybody. the most you can do is talk to your parents! tell them straight up!! you're not a little boy, and you're growing up and in LOVE!! that they can't stop you no matter what. no matter what they do, you'll always love her, and you're parents can't stop you.

PS: that's what i think, I'm 13 too

Answer 8

i think your mom and dad are being over protective of you because of how many young child births there are in this country... but i dont see any harm in you dating a lil girl as long as kissing each others cheeks is all you do... its cute that you love her and all but your still lil... maybe your parents are trying to shield you from getting your heart broken.. whatever the case may be talk to your mom and dad and tell them how you really feel about your girlfriend... hope all goes well.

Answer 9

i hate people who say you are too young to be in love. true love knows no age. i would talk to your parents, ask them to be a little more lenient and make sure they know they you both are responsible and wont make stupid choices. if they still dont listen then just try to wait. if you both truly love each other you will be able to wait for each other for eternity.

Answer 10

yOu are only 13. You have no idea what real love is. You are way too young to date! Keep your nose in your school books. when you are 16 then you can get to know girls!