I am a totally masculine guy, work out, have my life in control of what needs to be done. Am a control freik, but only like losing control if I hook up with a guy who could tie me up and work me over a bit. Is this weird, most guys think its wierd to request being tied up right off the bat. How can you get accross what you want done? Is it too demanding? Bad for a straight to bed first date?
2006-08-26 11:41:09 · 6 answers · asked by navel 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a lesbian and in the exact same shoes. I like it a little more rough tho. I like the nipple clamps and ball gags and p.ssy pumps and heavy bondage, light smothering and sometimes spankings. I get turned on when someone tells me what to do, the meaner the better. I am single and this causes a slight problem when meeting new 'prospects'. I even carry a 'toy box' around in the trunk of my car (in case). I am usually very upfront with my new 'prospects' and tell them what I want before hand. You can imagine some of the reactions I get doing this, but I figure I save both of us a lot of trouble and embarrassment in the long run. I have a pretty good success rate using this technique. Tell them what you want before it even gets to the bedroom. The ones that end up in your bed will definitely surprise you.
2006-08-26 12:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Inquisitive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love it! I am also a masculine guy and a bit of a control freak and love the idea of submitting tot he control of someone else this way. I do not think it is weird to request being tied up myself, but there are very few that I have fond in the gay community that share this fetish. I am a member of a Levi/Leather club in my local community and still find very few that practice any form of BDSM - light or otherwise.
It may be too much to ask to have someone explore this fascination with you on a first date, unless you hook up with that particular activity mutually agreed upon. Fortunately the Internet is a great resource to use explore this and find people of like mind.
Wish you good luck in your quest!
2006-08-26 19:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a bad idea for a 1st date, but what u do in the privacy of ur own bed room is no one business but ur own and as long as both of u are willing partners then there is no problem. There are a lot stranger fetishes out there, being tied up is pretty mild compared to some of the things that go on out there so dont worry about that too much. As for getting across what u want done, whisper it in his ear, everything sounds sexy and fun when whispered in someones ear. Good luck, have fun and be safe :-)
2006-08-26 11:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by bobatemydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun and play safe.
You would likely be supried how many people also enjoy bondage to some degree and are willing to explore. I find that it works best if you admit such things up front rather than waiting till quite a bit later.
Be specific and make suggestions, get some resources on the subject many good sites exist as do book on the subject.
Its not to demanding. But likely not something you wanna try on the first date.
Have fun and play safe.
2006-08-29 15:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like bondage too, but it is a difficult subject to start and anyway, the number of people interested to the point they act on it, is small. Therefore you have a better chance finding suitable partners, on more specialized sites where the number of people interested is much larger.
Try the FetishScene for links to clubs in your area.
http://www.fetishscene.com/
The following four sites specialize in BDSM related personals:
http://www.alt.com
http://www.bdsmdatelink.com/
http://www.bondage.com
http://www.collarme.com
Collarme is totally free.
2006-08-26 21:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by cordefr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I say its a bad idea for a first date since trust is very important, you might get left that way.
2006-08-30 03:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by flower wanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋