I,ve told my partner it not true and that i,d have a dna test done just 2 prov i,m not lying but i feel i should,nt hav 2 do that when i hav been with this man 4 years wot do i do
2006-08-26 10:44:04 · 20 answers · asked by jean1986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stand your ground! You dont have to prove anything. If your fella trusts you then he should believe YOU.
What a s*it mate!
2006-08-26 10:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by loopy lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you having any problems before?if you were then maybe that's why he is finding it hard to believe you. But someone has just told him that you have been unfaithful and if you had you would deny it anyway. If it was the other way around maybe you would have some doubts about whether he had..?This is obviously a shock to him and it may take sometime for him to get this head around this. Find out why your friend would lie, what the hell she was playing at and demand that she tells him that it is not true!
Offering a DNA test is something that you should not have to do because he should trust you completely and he should take your word over this 'friend.' But if this is the only way that he will accept that you are telling the truth you should think about whether you want To be with someone who does not trust you.
Hope everything works out and this friend needs to know that spreading lies is not no - i would have words!!
2006-08-26 11:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns, make your partner totally aware that what has been said scares you as it is simply a load of bull ........ try and find reasons why your 'friend' did this too you and discuss those with your partner. Most of all. don't lose your head over this, things like this always blow over with time ..... just hang on in there with your partner .... be the brave one here as one day he might have to defend something that he hadn't done. Life is like that .... stuff like this coming at you from all directions ... weather the storm ... keep your partner firmly in your sights .... as the child is really his, he will know anyway .... you generally do when you share the same genes. Good luck eh >......
2006-08-26 10:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the test. Women totally don't get what a big deal this is to guys because they have no way of identifying with what it feels like to not know if a kid is biologically yours or not. It's impossible to communicate just how big a deal it is (guys may be ok with not being the biological father - it's the not knowing part that tortures us). Yes it'd be nice if he trusted you, and maybe he even does, but its a simple blood test to give him lifelong peace of mind.
As for your friend, she isn't your friend, you should fire her.
2006-08-26 11:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of a friend does that? i wouldn't give this 'friend' the time of day again. maybe having a dna test will show your partner just how truthful, faithful and honest you are. he is bound to be a bit hesitant or doubtful if someone has planted such vicious lies in his mind. your 'friend' is obviously jealous about some or all aspects of your life and wanted to cause problems for you.
2006-08-26 18:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something wrong with your relationship if he doesn't trust you and chooses to listen to someone who's just a friend. Tell him you're deeply disappointed that he feels it necessary to go to the lengths of a DNA test when he should be able to trust you as the mother of his child. You know you're not lieing...I would speak to someone about what you can do against your 'friend' too...you can make her sorry because she's slandering.
2006-08-26 11:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Munchy Mooneo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once the seeds of doubt have been planted its hard to think otherwise if u r 100% posivtive that ur son is his too then do a dna test just to prove to ur man ur not lying and as for ur friend she/he is not a friend if they could willfully put u in a position like this.
2006-08-26 10:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt call her a friend if thats what she gets up 2. first of all confront her and ask her why she done it,then tell her where to go.meanwhile try and get things sorted out with your bloke.i hope everything works out 4 u.good luck!!!
2006-08-26 10:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by mizz1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it true?? If not get rid of the friend couse she is after your guy. If your partner does not trust you, what does it say about your relationship ??
2006-08-26 17:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by lester p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the friend for one thing.
Talk it over with your partner. If you're truthful and sincere, and he really loves you, he will believe you.
2006-08-26 10:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by Whoosher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋