worried about girlfriend?

Question

For the past 4 weeks she has been crying alot, then happy, then willing to kill anything that moves. I asked her if it was her periods and she said it wasnt. she has just left school so there is no exam stress, she has the next 3 months for relaxing and doing what ever she wants to do before she stars college which she says she is looking forward to. she is 17, never had any problem with pms or depression or anything. i have taken her out for a weekend to try and relax he, nothing seems to work. I just dont get it.

If any ladies have any serious answers or suggestions it would be appriciated.

I know she isnt pregnant because we havnt had sex. Her parents know she isnt doing so well, but they couldnt care less about her, she cant stand them anyway.

i know she is not pregnant, we have been together for 8 years, neither of us has cheated and we are together quite alot so vhances are very low, that and i trust her that she wouldnt do anything like that

Answer 1

try to talk to her and see what is wrong it would really help if we knew what she was doing...she might have angermanagement problems or she might be bi-polar because people that are bi-polar have consint mood swings

Answer 2

This is a major change in her life. She's going from high school and friends, family, childhood..all she has known as a child and teen. This can feel a little sad even if it's all going well. She's going to "the unknown" this can be scary, sometimes just the time while your waiting can be very stressful and scary, then when the new and unknown "thing" has happened, it's great & you wonder why you were so nervous. Are the two of you going to have distance between you now? maybe not see each other so much? Maybe she's afraid your relationship will change?
Talk to her and...Listen, listen to try & understand. If that doesn't help, maybe she needs to talk to someone uninvolved like a councelor. She is very lucky to have a boyfriend who cares enough to try and help her like you are! Bless you both, Hope all is well!

Answer 3

It could be that she has anxiety about going to college, or even about having a long period off. Anxiety can show up in a lot of ways, even if you're not aware of being particuarly stressed. It could also be depression. For either problem, a visit to her GP would probably help.

It could also be worth considering that something has happened that she feels unable to tell you about. Maybe a death of a friend, or she could be pregnant and is afraid to tell you. If you think this is the case, have a chat with her and let her know you are there for her and want to help her. Hopefully this will give her the oppertunity to open up to you. But try not to pressure her.

I hope you manage to help her out. You obviously care a lot for her. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well, if she's just left school then a) probably her routine's all out of whack, and b) she's probably emotionally winding down after all the stress of exams. If she's not got a job to keep her busy, then she's probably bored and worrying unnecessarily about things that wouldn't normally cross her mind. After all, it's a big time in your life as you're about to become an adult and you've really got to consider the future.

I bet once she starts college she'll be fine again. Don't crowd her or be in her face, give her space and just let her know you're there if she needs to talk. Or you could try planning a nice day out for her - even just a picnic in the park or something. Take her mind off whatever it is that's bugging her.

Answer 5

If it isnt related to a specific thing maybe she has generalize anxiety about the future and starting school. If she is a perfectionist or likes things perfect or likes to have control over things this may have her worried that it is a new arena for her. I do have to say though when I was that age I was like that. Tell her to take B complex, omega 3 fish oils. get sun, eat organic dark chocolate and exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. Also calicum and magnesium works too. If she is on the pill it could be that too ( slight hormone inbalance)

Answer 6

Maybe since she has just gotten over exams she is all stressed out yet. Maybe seeing a Dr. would help her hormones might be out of whack. Simply taking a low does birth control pill can help regulate that. Not to scare you but I had a girlfriend that had a period through whole pregnancy and still gave birth to a perfectly happy now 21 yrs baby boy.

Answer 7

She might have a problem she feels she cannot tell anyone, it could be a deep rooted problem, I think you should just let her know that your there for her, be her shoulder to cry on if she needs it, but dont push her, she will open up in her own time! Also, she is a young woman so she will have emotions and hormones running riot in her body, she will eventually calm down, dont worry its normal! x And exercise is a great way of getting rid of frustrations- take her for a jog!

Answer 8

Hi, i had this when i was 17 and i myself didnt know what was wrong with me, but all it boiled down to was worrying and anxiety, i didnt know i was as bad as i was, snapping at everyone, i was emotional alot to, everything mad me cry just walking down the street, or going to work would make me cry for no reason. When i got down to the nitty gritty it was to do with my job, exhaustion, and stress. I had to stop work for a while and the feelings i had are not as bad for instance i am not crying every second of the day. I went to the doctors and he recommended me seeing a counseller, but i never, and i got these tablets called passiflora that calm my nerves they are herbal so there is no side effects like antidepressants are known for. Your girlfriend might have what is silmilar to me. The thing is i kept things to myself alot, not realising i had to talk about it. Your girlfriend may tell you she wants to go to college, but how do you really know it isnt worring her sick, there is obviously something wrong, as you should know her well enough as you have been dating for 8 years. I would talk to her and tell her how she is being and if this doesnt help, she really should go to a doctor as, it can make her really ill. her may her doctor may give her some anti depressants or give her counselling or even both. But it is important for her health to go and see someone. She may not know what she wants to do with her life and feels pressure of going to college. She may even just want to get a job and not go to college all together. You need to talk to her to get it out of her. Just let her know your there for her if and your are worried for her.

Answer 9

She has some internal conflicts she's not willing to tel anyone about. You should offer to get her some counseling. Notonly that but spend a lot of time with her and she'll be more willing to open up. Just ask her things about her life, her family ect

Answer 10

She sounds like she is going through Manic Depression, she should really go see a doctor. It is so sweet that you care so much about her, good for you! :) Just be there for her the best you can and as much as she will let you. She will be okay with some treatment

Answer 11

If you were dating my daughter and knew these things about her, I would want to know. Can you speak with her parents? This is a stressful time in her life, and she may not be coping with the stress as well as she could. She may not be getting enough sleep. and feeling pressure from those around her.