Cant get over my miscarrage?

Question

i had a miscarrage 5 yrs ago still can get over my loss. i think about it every day. how can i get over it?

Answer 1

I had two miscarriages and I got over it because I look at it this way, it was not met to be. Now I have 3 beautiful children and another one on the way... You have to move on, because 5 yrs is too long to be stressing over it.. I know that everybody is different but if you really can't get over it, you should get some help.
(Good Luck)!!!!

Answer 2

Everyone deals with losses differently. The way I have coped is I look at it as it happened for a reason. I miscarried 9 years ago. I still think about it from time to time. I feel that there must have been something wrong with either the baby or me, and God did not want to put me or the child through this. May be I was not able to care for the child, or something. You just have to look to the positive, I know it is hard. But if you keep dwelling on this, think about what other joys you are missing out of in life. Your baby would have wanted you to be happy, and not morn for the rest of you life. I am not telling you to forget, because this is impossible, but to move on.
It is hard to have a miscarriage. To me this was worse that having a loved one to die, because you didn't have a chance to know this person, or what they were capable of. Take it one day at a time. It will get better.

Answer 3

If you have children then dealing with the depression and sorrow not well may be affecting the quality of their life along with your husbands. Miscarriage also often involves things like with my friend who eventually found she has gestational or borderline diabetes. Go to a doctor see if your health is all ok or hormones because the problem may be an underlying one. Also exercise, a good diet, getting involved in community activities, going for walks in sunlight help with depression. Drinking adequate fluid may help flush out left over hormones. It is very complicated a good professional especially a Christian with a psychology degree who is SANE can be helpful as a counselor. Sometimes you just need to talk to someone instead of keeping it inside. Look around you being depressed and feeling guilty sad or bad about it is not helping anyone especially yourself. Some people are not designed to have children like myself so I teach and help out with friends children and children in my family. I almost died from a bad pregnancy and decided I valued my life more than that of an unborn child. I have done a great many good things in my life since then hopefully this is one of them. That is my therapy for many things. Psychology studies have shown if you help other people resolve a problem when you have a problem it helps your psyche such that often it is easier for you to resolve that problem. There is so much more out there about this so if this does not work keep seeking for what works for you. The other answers here are very good also. Nice people here.

Answer 4

You need to look outside yourself. It is long overdue for you to "get on with your life." This means no disrespect for your loss, just prioritizing the REST of your life ahead of this... Have you ever considered volunteering your time to help others? Helping others often helps you even more. Perhaps counselling is in order since you seem to be hanging on to this hurt as a "medal" of sorts that sets you apart from everyone else.

We are the total culmination of our life experiences and if you don't start on your journey, you will be missing out on the best years of your life!! Jump in and enjoy the ride!!

Answer 5

It takes time to get over someone that we have loved and we lose them. All I can say is to take it one day at a time. It may help if you talk about it instead of keeping the feelings inside.

Answer 6

You need to talk to a professional counsellor, or check around for a support group. It's going to hurt for a long time, but don't let it ruin your life. Check online for a group to join, or call Planned Parenthood to see if they can set you up with a counsellor. I hope you can find some peace. Good luck.

Answer 7

i've never been pregnant, but i know the joy mother's feel when they realise that there is life growing within them. I feel ur pain and i ache for u, but u've got to move on, when life deals u a blow u get up and fight right back. it natural to mourn for a life lost but it wont bring 'em back. I'm not going to tell u to forget about it cos i know u cant, just dont let it take u away with it, u'll have other children, it'll b ok

Answer 8

It is a very hard thing to go through, I know it has happened to me before, it took me a lot of time, and talking to ppl whom have had the same experiences, maybe you could try some support groups in your area/online.

Answer 9

you may never get completely over it, but you can talk to a counselor or a professional like a therapist or psychologist about the feelings going on inside you who can help you feel alittle at peace about your feelings and thoughts about the miscarriage.....

Answer 10

I had one about 38 years ago...and it happened on Labor Day...
You don't forget, unfortunately ....some years I'm o.k. other years
NO...my daughter-in-law also had one, it's the same for her....
To bad there is a pill or something you could take....I was told
GOD NEVER GIVER'S YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE..
some time's it makes me wonder...I do know there are support
group's for this...god bless you