How do you make a friend if your shy?

Answer 1

It is difficult but it can be done with some effort on your part - you are best making a little conversation with another quiet looking person, keep away from the showmen who would just use you to make themselves look better.

You will be naturally attracted to a person who is more like you, so when you see someone that you think might be a nice person, go nearby and see what happens. Sometimes the situation calls for some conversation and they may make it easy on you and strike up a dialogue first. If not, just a simple comment on the situation you are both in would be an easy enough ice breaker.

We are naturally social animals so it is in you to overcome your shyness - shyness is just an extended defense mechanism to protect yourself which is a good thing really, so don't feel that you're lacking in any way. Its the idiots who give their life story and opinions to everyone in earshot that overpopulate the planet unfortunately.

You are a much more interesting person and your friends will value you more for not being as vocally 'easy' as everyone else. So, choose your potential friend with care then give them alone the benefit of your opinion, you'll be fine.

Answer 2

I am very shy. For most of my life, the friends that I have accumulated have approached me.

I can remember a time when I was about 11 years old and I made the effort to talk to some girls at my new school. I was so scared but made a couple of friends. That was the only time that I approached someone before they could come to me. I am 27 years old now and still have a very hard time talking to people. I have a few very close friends and don't introduce myself to anyone new unless forced to in certain social situations. I think that I don't have great self confidence. People call me cocky, but truly, it's mostly a front.

If you find that you are too timid to start conversations, just kick back, keep an open mind and smile- someone will walk into your life that is worth making a friendship with.

Answer 3

well you could start by working on the shy thing... there is really no need in it.. it is all in the head... simply wake up tomorrow and before you step out of bed say to your self that today is the first day towards not being shy. It can not happen over night but it can happen easly! Take baby steps... when you catch your self wanting to say something or do something that you are holding back from.... just do it.... and again and again and again and before you know it you will no longer be as shy as you were before.... it only takes a few times of speaking up and getting peoples reactions to make you feel good about your self and realize that there is no need to be shy!!! Welcome to the confident side of life!! Have fun with the newly vibrant YOU!

Answer 4

Shy people are very selfish. If they have few friends than that is all they deserve. To be shy is to deny others of your thoughts and opinions that may change their life. Stop protecting yourself with the fear of rejection. Rejection is sometime the best thing that can happen to someone. No one likes it but it is sometimes best. The person or persons that reject you are most often not worth your time anyway.

Answer 5

Quit worrying about what people think and take a positive step forward. Shyness is basically a form of self-centeredness. Shy people are worried about what people think of them. They are confined by their own self-doubts and insecurities. Be proud of who you are and don't worry. If you are truly content with yourself, then get out there and make new friends! Enjoy life and stop worrying about things that don't really matter. You are terrific! Now go let everyone know it!

Answer 6

start by having eye contact and a smile
then, when you're feeling a bit confident and feel that they want you as a friend (they smiled back or sumthing)..walk over to them and say hi.. go slow..gather enough courage to make the first move if you want the friendship.

Answer 7

You just have to put yourself out there. Being shy can be hard to get over, but you won't be able to if you don't gather the courage to just do it. Don't be afraid - most people are very nice!

Answer 8

from one shy person to another, start with a smile then talk to them and maybe ask a few questions about themselve but, take your time, knowone likes to rush.

Answer 9

just have confidence in urself and go out and meet new ppl! just go up and say hey im a lil shy and i was going to see if you would like to be my friend!! that is what i did and i still have my bff and we have been bff since 6th grade!!

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Answer 10

"A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly..." -Proverbs 18:24 (KJV)
It's hard advice to follow, but by showing someone that you want to be their friend you will be able to make friends. Start off small, just say "hi," and smile...then work your way up to gettting to know eachother better as time progresses and you feel more comfortable.