ok so theres these to girls n they are in 8th grade im in 9th n they sayin sh it that i called her a bit ch n a her friend a sl ut when i didnt... n they wanna start a fight when i dont want to... n the one who i supposably called a bit ch lives around the block from me.. n im kinda afraid to go outside n stuff n i will see her n she will like wanna fight me when i dont want to cause theres really nothin to fight about im not scared or anything just that it would be my first fight n like yeah i just want GOOD advice please help me!! n they started since last year n its kinda immature but whatever... i asked my friends for advice n they said if they go up to you just walk away n they will get bored of you... should i just do that n forget about them... or somethin else... please help!! any advice!
2006-08-26 09:48:35 · 22 answers · asked by babi_blonde_101 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i told my mom.. n she said the same thing just keep walkin around they wont bother you... n whenever i do try to tell them i didnt say that.. they always say stop liein... n just start sayin sh it
2006-08-26 09:54:42 · update #1
i dont want to fight her.... i dont wanna fight anyone!! im not really afraid just that there sister is the same way like them n shes in 10 grade soo yeah.. i just dont want to fight!
2006-08-26 09:57:06 · update #2
The same kind of thing happened to me in high school and they jumped me but I kicked ther buts ther was 4 of them and one of them was supposidly the toughest girl at school. yeh right... anyway after they jumped me and i kicked there *** that was the last time anyone evr talked crap to me.
2006-08-26 09:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by tohellwitu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation is not likely to end without some type of confrontation. Steel yourself for when it happens and know what you need to say. Do not exacerbate the situation in any manner. Keep your words and your voice calm, non-threatening, and matter-of-fact. Let the person know that as a civilized person you do not engage in acts of physical violence. Not only is such behavior immature, it violates the law. Fighting on your way to, or on your way home from school may result in suspension. Tell them that your education is too important to waste time with immature rumors. Avoid getting into situations where you might contribute to rumors.
Your anxiety about getting hurt when you go outside is normal. The key is to overcome that feeling of fear and go outside as you normally do in spite of the threat.
If you know the email addresses of these girls, send them an email and tell them that what they heard is not something that you said. Perhaps someone misinterpreted you or someone is attempting to create strife between you.
Good luck!
Will D
Enterprise AL
http://www.notagz.com
2006-08-26 17:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Will D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hoenstly u cant walk away. They jus gon jump you or get there sis on you. Dont pay them any attention. They young so they gon be on little stuff. Who know they sis might pay them no attention. Im in the 11th. I went through this plenty of times. When it came down to it they didnt want to fight. Yea I was nervous but not scared. Its life u gon go through it. If they try an be yo friend jus know its probably a trick so dont do it. ~*GOOD LUCK & HOPE I HELPED*~
2006-08-26 17:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by 8_letters_3_words_1_meaning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a paper trail, meaning start letting people know that this is going on, so that if something does arise it will be known that you haven't be intiating this foolishness. Then try not to acknowledge their ignorance, although I know times have changed since I was your age, and kids are much more dangerous now, if they do confront you, let them know that you didn't say those things and would like to be cool with them, if they say no then say your lost and walk away. You've done your part after that
2006-08-26 17:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lady tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advise is to ignore them, but at the same time talk to a teacher from your school or a concilier and explain the whole situation. another possibility is to make friends with some friends of those two and try to say good things about them in front of others, so that they see that you're not to be blamed.
2006-08-26 16:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia Lidia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talked with your parents?
Or the school?
that's about all I can come up with. only experience I had with a fight in school (very long time ago) was someone coming up to me at my locker saying she was gonna kick my butt. then I said who ARE you anyway? That was the last I saw of her.
Turns out there was almost an identical girl in our class.
2006-08-26 16:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its a shame that ur scared of girls a grade below you.Walking away means that you r scary and weak.If it comes down to it fight her.
2006-08-26 16:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright dude listen to me. 8th grade drama is crap!!! im kinda in this same situation... this girl just decided she hated me one day because she thought i was saying stuff about her behind her back and it sucksss cause she lives next door to me. honestly, what i do is just ignore her. if she trys to say nething to me im just like ok and walk away. she used to threaten me or w/e but after a couple days she just got sick of it lol. good luck!!!
2006-08-26 18:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by rjekqlw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST WALK AWAY IF THEY EVER COME UP TO YOU. THATS THE BEST THING TO DO. SINCE YOU'RE OLDER THAN THEM, WALKING AWAY SHOWS THAT YOU ARE "GROWN UP", HOPE THAT HELPS. I'VE BEEN IN THIS TYPE OF SITUATION BEFORE....BUT WE WERE IN THE SAME GRADE. AND IF YOU IGNORE THEM, THEY WON'T BOTHER YOU. GEEZ....SEEMS LIKE JUST YESTERDAY I WENT THROUGH WITH HIGH SCHOOL DRAMA. I LOOK BACK AT IT TODAY AND I LAUGH AT WHY THEY GOT MAD AT ME. BUT WE'RE ALL FRIENDS NOW.
2006-08-26 17:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Da*Da 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them, they are trying to make themselves feel better by bringing you down. If it becomes an issue where you are really scared, tell your parents, and a school teacher.
2006-08-26 16:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋