I dont want to ask my bf because i dont want him to think im stupid. Hes in college and a frat so hes really smart. I accidentally got pregnant and i told him last night. he got really mad and gave me a hanger and asked me if i knew what to do with it. i said yes because i didnt want to look dumb but im only 16 and i really dont know. what does this mean and what do i do with this?
2006-08-26 09:32:31 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You people are effing stupid to keep falling for questions like this.
2006-08-26 10:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just because hes in college and in a frat don't make him smart, and he proved it by giving you the hanger. is at a point in your life where you have a few hard choices to make. 1) If you are or are not going to leave him for the way he treated you. 2) If you want to have this baby. 3) and if you are going to have the baby, if your going to keep it or not. There are so many couple who can't have children out there who would love to have a baby. i know every women has the choice to do what she wants with her body. But i ask you to plz look at all you oppositions before you do anything you may regret later. i also know being a teen mother wont be easy, and you'll miss out on things ohter are doing. in the long run i hope you would see it was well worth it.
if you need to talk to anyone plz feel free to contaced me.
2006-08-26 09:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get pregnant on accident...it takes 2 people to make a baby and you know that having sex leads to pregnancy...it was not accident. If neither one of you did not want any babies then you should have used protection or not had sex.
Do not abortion/kill the child just because you and your BF were irresponsible when having sex. Your BF does not give a rat's butt about you or that baby because he would have never given you the hanger, he is selfish.
You have a lot of growing up to do and having sex was not so smart of you knowing that you are not even a grown woman.
2006-08-26 09:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well I wouldn't say he is very smart. There is no way you accidently got pregnant it takes two to get pregnant. So he actually meant for you to use the hanger to make yourself have an abortion. You need to talk to your parents right away and let them know what is going on. I know it is going to be really hard but you need to let them know and you need to stay away from that bf of yours. I had my first child at 16 and it wasn't easy but I made it. So if you decide to keep it it's going to be hard but you can make it. He needs to be held responsible for what he has done. You need to report it to the law enforcement because he is probably 18 or older and you are only 16. Good luck with what ever you decide.
2006-08-26 11:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Desiree A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone needs to take that disgusting piece of SH?#T and "hanger" him .... the fact that he would be so crude and disrespectful to you only indicates he would be a worthless father - - and you don't want him teaching your baby ANYTHING! So get away from him - talk with your parents & anyone else who would lovingly support you and love that baby & YOURSELF.... You wouldn't be doing neither you nor your baby any good by staying with that jerk. I was in a similar situation w/my 1st daughter 14 years ago and I decided to walk away & have nothing to do with him. I knew I would have to raise my child on my own (with friends/family support) and accepted that. And now I have a beautiful, healthy, smart-*** teenage daugher who knows NOTHING about hangers (hell, you can tell that by all the clothes on her floor & NOT in her closet!). DO THE RIGHT THING.
2006-08-26 11:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by princess4castle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he meant the hanger for your neck.
Anyway... just because he is in a frat means nothing pertaining to intelligence. He must not be very smart (or just really ugly) to still be dating a 16 year old in the first place.
2006-08-26 09:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The dumbass wants you to kill your baby if i were you and i didn't want the baby I would give it up for adoption, and I would tell my parents b/c chances are they have a college education and they know more then you're dumass bf...you should leave his *** and get a real man...and you are dumb for getting in bed with a college guy you have no idea what he's doing at his frat parties and how many girls he's fu8ked, and you probably don't even know if he really likes you...
2006-08-26 10:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by Toyre_826 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your "boyfriend" is an asshole. he doesn't sound smart at all. the hanger is to tell you to have an abortion or to give one yourself one with the hanger. again, your "boyfriend" is an asshole.
as for you, you don't accidentally get pregnant. you aren't responsible enough to take care of yourself and you ended up pregnant so you probably aren't the best candidate to have a child.. but you can learn. PLEASE take some parenting classes before you have the kid, if you have the kid. and don't listen to all these idiots telling you to have the kid out of spite and just to get child support. children are REAL people. you don't use them to play games. if you do you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
2006-08-26 09:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by LstCaress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means you need a restraining order for the bf! You need to talk to your mom and dad about this right away, no matter how hard it is. I am sorry you are in this situation, but don't let him scare you into anything, he sound like a horrible person and you will definitely be better off without him. You can raise this baby alone, or you can give it to a family that can't have babies, please think about all this carefully before you do anything you can't change and will always regret.
2006-08-26 09:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being in a frat does not mean he's smart first of all. and also, he's telling you to get an abortion. first of all, you should talk to your parents and someone who understands these sorts of situations like at planned parenthood. they can help you figure out exactly how you feel about this, and whether or not you want to carry the baby, and either raise it yourself or give it up for adoption, or if you end up getting an abortion. however your decision ends up, always remember that it is your to make, and no one else can make it for you. you have to do what to feel is best for you, not what's best for your parents or the father. oh, and one more thing, get rid of that "boyfriend" as soon as possible, if not sooner. he sounds like a controlling, selfish, unfeeling, manipulative creep.
2006-08-26 09:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by C_Millionaire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, come here ok?
What he told you to do was to abort the kid, ok? He very crudely and imaturley told you to get an abortion. For the years when women were ashamed and couldn't have a kid, and abortions were illegal, women would use a coat hanger and do it themselfs- and oftentimes died from infections and bleedings.
You need to talk to your parents RIGHT NOW- and I mean AS IN LAST NIGHT IF POSSIBLE AND TELL THEM
2006-08-26 09:47:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋