A cure for my melancholy, sarcastic,conceited and morose temperment?

Question

i fear myself and my future...my thoughts keep getting more negative and darker...

Answer 1

I totally agree with the 2nd answer. If you will find someone that needs real help and start working to meet their need ,you forget about selfish wants. I knew a 17 year old that went to Mexico with a group that went down and started building one room houses for family's and she was so amazed at them being so thankful for what she considered horrendous living conditions that she said she would never view life the same and she learned to be thankful for the blessings we have in America. Get off your pity party and go use the talents you have and it can be very fulfilling. Good luck

Answer 2

Dear Mad Hatter,

I, too, am a melancholic. Two things help. One is to memorize sections of the Bible. It doesn't always help, but it helps more than chance would dictate.

The other is to sit yourself down in the corner and say to yourself, "Self, I know this is how you feel. I know this is how the world looks to you right now, and I can give in to you, or I can get up and let you keep sitting in the corner and I can get on and do the next thing, whether it's taking out the trash, or helping a neighbor, or doing my homework, or surprising a family member with something nice, or cleaning the toilet if there's nothing else....". You get the idea.

Can't say I always make it. Today's a really bad day for me. But, then I've just had a super-bad last three weeks.

Without the God of the Bible, I really think pessimism is more realistic than the bubble people, but the one thing that keeps me going is that "but God..." I see no hope in what I see, "but
God...".

You have a difficult temperament. I know, I have the same one. You have to try to fight going inside. It's a living hell in there.
Try thinking about helping others some, although you need your space and alone time, too, but try to find balance. If there's anything a temperament like yours and mine needs it's a deep internal balance.

I see it like the world, which hangs on nothing in space, yet it balances, and so I see myself like a tightwire walker in space,
seeking a poise and balance that does not depend on the outward, but on the inward, on the deep things of the soul.

Without that, people like you and me don't make it through.

If it's any help, I'm mostly making it, even though I've had long deep periods of not feeling that I would.

What do you want out of life? Go for it. And be easier on others. And easier on yourself.

Answer 3

A cure - you can control your own thoughts, and the words in your question say that you're controlling them to send negative messages to your subconscious.

Whatever you keep telling your subconscious gets embedded there. Your conscious mind is in control. You need to get control of your conscious mind.

Besides telling yourself positive things that you like about yourself (like: "I am a happy person." "I do a lot for other people.") you need to stop and actually notice the things in your day that make you happy and make you want to smile. Start with the first cup of coffee - stop and smell it. Let yourself enjoy it. Let yourself feel some good feelings.

Whatever you are doing, if you really like something - a song on the radio, the taste of ice cream, STOP and enjoy it. This is really more important than your realize, because the enjoyment of life helps make certain brain chemicals (dopamine) that is part of your reward system, part of your feeling good. But you can't make it unless you let yourself feel the good feelings.

Give it a try. What have you got to lose?

Answer 4

Of course you could seek counseling...but a cheaper road might be volunteerism. Volunteering at a food pantry or soup kitchen might give your life a whole new perspective, as well as put you in contact with other volunteers with a brighter take on life. I find that being "other-centered" is a real mood elevator. Helping people makes you feel good about yourself...and also makes you more appreciative of what you have!

Good luck. Remember, tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life. You can turn it around.

Answer 5

What is it inside you is still hurting and remains unhealed, dig into your past and see when this present temperament started taking roots, pull it out from there.

To start afresh you need to clear up the ground of old debris of emotions and painful memeories.

Forgive, forget and go claim the fresh life that awaits you!

If you pray, hand over your temperament and ask for help from the Divine, it is ok, sometimes we all need it, you are brave man to seek it here, now look up and seek it there, ask to be healed.

Answer 6

Young man! open the mind's window and ventilate. There are too many other things at hand to be done. stop moaning, for all hell has not fallen upon the head as yet. So cheer up and get going.

Answer 7

Try a little gratitude for the the things you DO have. Need a boost? Take a tour through a pediatric cancer ward (if you have the guts). I promise you, you'll see things a bit differently. rat

Answer 8

you need help...you sound depressed....sometimes it is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain...sometimes by circumstance...i was told today that at 6:33pm a guardian angel was being sent to me...well they are coming through me to you......God heals....

Answer 9

go to a psychiatrist!!!!! now, you might have something seriously wrong with you. let them know everything you are thinking don't leave anyhting out. do you drink??? drugs???? those are factors also.

Answer 10

wow thats sad... why?
if u really feel that bad u can always get help....
wish u luck