family and boyfriend at war!?

Question

my mum and stepdad are at war with my boyfriend.he is black and i know my stepdad can be racist.he didnt like him from the start and even asked my sisters ex boyfriend to find out about him when we got together.now it seems that my stepdad has rubbed off on my mum. after banning my boyfriend from my house just because we had an argument they then approched him and told him that he is no good for me and that he doesnt treat me right.
they told me he is using me because he wants to do his own thing during the day and i go to his later at night.
now my boyfriend and i are struggling. he says he cant be with me coz they are making it hard and they are being racist.
i dont know what to do coz i love him but they are making me beleive he is no good.my boyfriend says he wants them to appologize to him but i dont think they will as they just dont like him.
although i do think some things should change in the relationship i dont think its as bad as they are making out.
what can i do?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I don't know what to say about the racist thing. But when I got with my ex-husband, no one in my family liked him, but no one said anything. Well after 5 long years, I found out that he was controlling and possessive, and was cheating on me. I was suffering a lot of emotional and verbal abuse, so I decided to divorce him. This is when I found out that no one in my family like him, I was like why didn't you say anything, they told me that they were scarred that would make me want to be with him more and turn me against them. They could see what he was doing to me, and they did not like it. You know, people outside of the relationship can see more clearly than you can when you are the one that is involved.

Get your facts, see if they have a ligament reason for not liking him. And if you find out that they are only looking out for you own good, then this could be a good thing. But if they are just trying to get you away from him because he is black, then you will have to make a choice between your family and your b/f, and this is a very hard choice to make.

Good luck. Hope everything works out for you!

Answer 3

Let's put color aside. Where did your stepdad get the impression that your bf doesn't treat you right? If there is substance to that statement, it should be clear. Ask your stepdad what he meant. If he can't come up with specifics, you will have him cornered with the fact that it is really just because your bf is black.

There is a possibility that he will see the error of his ways. If your mom is present for this conversation, that is all the better.

Good luck.

Answer 4

What happened during the argument you had with your guy that made your folks ban him? You my love him but does he respect your wishes, desires, feelings? What did your sisters ex boyfriend find out about him? What things should change in the relationship? Are they are minor piddly little things like emotional abuse or physical abuse, or treating you badly?

Answer 5

You can't do a thing. You can't change people and obviously your parents aren't going to make nice with your bf. So you have a choice to make - you either choose your family or your bf. Your bf isn't going to stick around as long as he has to put up with your parent's crap and I don't blame him. But you need to also think about your family - because they are there with you through your whole life, if you and your bf aren't serious it might just be easier to break things off and move on.

Answer 6

it ought to look that he loves his drugs more beneficial than he loves you. until eventually he once and for all is in rehab getting remedy to kick them, they'll administration him. you want to make your concepts up in case you'll positioned up with it something else of your existence (He received't extremely end until eventually he's in detention center because it type of feels he would not care the way you sense about it immediately.) or discover someone new who isn't a junkie. the different difficulty i ought to signify is that the subsequent time they are going to have their drug get mutually, you tell regulation enforcement about it with a view to get rid of the toddlers from it (that's considered toddler abuse in quite some states to disclose toddlers to drugs no matter if the youngsters are not using them.) and the moms and dads all get compelled into remedy or detention center, yet be prepared for all Hell to escape in view that they'll recognize it changed into you who snitched.

Answer 7

No onecan make you believe anything you don't want to. Could it be he is really not a decent guy and you just don't see it? If it is because they are racists then ignore them and move out as soon as you are legally able.

Answer 8

your dad shouldn't be racist and he shouldn't talk 2 your b/f like that without getting 2 know him and if your b/f really cared about u and loved u he wouldn't just give up like that he should keep on trying and u shoud take 2 your dad

Answer 9

Be careful. If you are young, don't consider marrying this guy, unless things get better. It is a slippery slope.

Answer 10

if you want a happy life then get rid of your boyfriend. If he can't get on with your family then he can't get on with anyone else. He is trouble maker.