there must be something about that person that puts you at ease... a behavior style? a physical characteristic? what is it that makes you feel comfortable around a new acquaintance?
2006-08-26 08:43:32 · 20 answers · asked by patzky99 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi, Patzky,
I didn't just realise this..but it's starting to become increasingly clear to me... I never cease to be amazed that I can talk so easily to some people whom I've known for less than a year, yet struggle for conversation with people that I should be able to talk easily to, judging by the time that I've known them... But again, there are people whom you may not necessarily "click" with from the beginning, but then soon become people you couldn't live without. Am I sounding too cryptic? ;)
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So, you don't necessarily feel comfortable with someone immediately.... So maybe you don't get off on the right foot... So maybe you have nothing to say... You haven't even tried talking to them yet.... Perhaps we've got the wrong idea about friendship (even romance!)... We tend to follow the train of thought, that if we don't instantly feel some kind of lightning bolt connection and close bond, it's just not going to happen... And this is really wrong... Because the next time that you walk past someone just because you don't know them well enough (or at all), you could be passing up the chance of something really good...I guess ;)
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But people who are respectful, and have a sense of humor.. might win me over ;D
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Thanks, for the question!
My regards!;)
2006-08-27 09:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 5⤊ 15⤋
If they have a sense of humor and are a good listener, that usually helps. But I think what puts most people at ease is that the person either reminds us of someone we know and like already, or there is a quality in the person that we have in ourselves.
2006-08-28 14:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by reignydey 3 · 12⤊ 3⤋
When I first met my current boyfriend, we clicked right away and I think it is because we have a ton of stuff in common. Movies and bands that I like & done of my other friends have even heard of, he knew about and enjoyed. Plus, he's pretty cute, so that helped. But I think we just have a lot in common as far as what we like and we have similar personalities.
2006-08-26 08:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by BethS 6 · 10⤊ 2⤋
A Great Smile and Confident eyes. Good body language and a cute joke would do the trick.
2006-08-26 08:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 2⤋
it's a vibe. a happy, good vibe. if the person is generally happy within themselves and feels at ease, the good feeling spreads and is very attractive. people are attracted to things that make them feel good. it's all energy. of couse, it helps if that person doesn't look scary....
2006-08-26 09:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by jlc 2 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Someone who is not intimidating in presence.
Goes out of their way to put you at ease.
Is attentive, funny and sees you for you with no expectations.
2006-08-26 08:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 11⤊ 2⤋
Mainly if they give me lots of personal space,hate when someone invades that!Takes me a while to be comfortable.A friendly smile helps too.
2006-08-26 10:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 2⤋
It has more to do with how confident you are in meeting and dealing with other people. Increase your self-confidence/self-esteem and you are more likely to be more instantlly comfortable around anyone.
2006-08-26 09:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by FireHorse 1 · 10⤊ 2⤋
I'm most comfortable with people that are comfortable with me and themselves; I don't know, maybe it's people that are open minded and open about themselves.
2006-08-26 09:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by dubdwells 2 · 10⤊ 2⤋
Someone who is humorous and straight to the point about things.
2006-08-26 08:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by geminiblue26 3 · 11⤊ 2⤋
if they tell a good joke, or if they tell me they find me attractive. every one wants to be called atrective, so speek your mind. it make them comfortible.
2006-08-26 08:49:45 · answer #11 · answered by Tenchi 2 · 10⤊ 2⤋