What do i say????

Question

ok im gunna have to see my ex at my best friends bday party, i didn't talk to him last time i saw him, not because i was mad or nething i just honestly didn't have anything to say, i still want us to be friends, but it seems like when were around each other it's very acquard, (i know i can't spell) we don't really talk to each other much, i don't know wat the deal is but i want it to be like old times b4 we started dating i mean we were friends, so i mean what should i say or do to get it like that again, i want it to be like nothing happened, i mean i know we won't be best friends or nething but i atleast want us on talking terms, ok im gunna shut up now and let u answer my question, which is how do i show him im not mad and i still want us to be friends, i don't like contreversy, or tension

Answer 1

just be your self and say what ever feels comfortable to you ....if you get there and you don't feel like talking don't if you do feel like talking then talk but only say what feels right your gut feeling is what you want to go with trust me fallow what ever your heart is saying and just be honest with him and if he is OK with it than you can be friends again but it maybe hard at first for him and it all really depends on who broke up with who it is usually harder for the one that was dumped to adjust to the new relationship! I know my ex-husband is still hurting and only talks to me when he has too CZ we have two kids so we have to talk but we have been apart for 8 months now but we were married for 20 years!~!! he says he is happy now but he is a very bad liar. i have know him 23 years so I can hear it in his voice he is still sad and mad in side but just pray that you can get back what you use to have. good luck!

Answer 2

The trouble with this type of approach is that it is not a good idea at a social gathering. If you meet him at the party, he is likely to be with someone else. How would you feel if you were with your boyfriend and some girl comes up and introduces herself as his ex lover??? You wouldn't.

My suggestion is to get a hold of him prior to the party and discuss your feelings, and that you want to be friendly and for things to be the way they were before you were an item. This way, you are giving him options to avoid controversy and tension :).

Good luck.

Answer 3

If I were you I wouldn't try to be friends with him. Why do you want to be friends so bad? Do you still have feelings for him? Being friends with an ex is bad news because it's so easy to slip back into your old ways and before you know it you're in a relationship again when you didn't want to be!

Be civil to him but that's all. Don't bring him back into your life.

Answer 4

well, maybe you could call him before the party and tell him you would really like to be friends and that you hoped a conversation pre-party could squash any hostility or awkwardness so that you could all have a good time.
i think it would just be better to do this before so if there is any drama it won't be affecting you're friend's party. good luck

Answer 5

U can always work at a normal friendship and succeed. But just for the record, always remember that it can never be like nothing happened. Because something did.

Answer 6

okay best policy for all these questions tell him what you just told us. ask if you can talk to him then say, hey i ve been noticing a little bit of awkward dead air between us and i really dont want that. I really liked how great of friends we were before we dated and i really want things to be like that again. are you okay with this?

Answer 7

Just go up and start talking small talk. Like "Hey, how are you?" and "What have you been up to?" and then let it branch from there.
It's going to be awkward for awhile but things like that take time to piece back together.

Answer 8

just be yourself.
strike up a conversation about basically anything.
except your relationship ofcourse.
if you want it to be as thought nothing happened..
then act like nothing happened.
act like youre just meeting again for the first time..
and just talk about anything you can think of.

Answer 9

tell him that you want to talk to him and if he agrees tell him how you feel, ask him if he wants to remain friends[ like you were before ]
he may feel the same way, the only way is to find out is to talk it out. [i would not include talk about when you were together, that can cause problems] starting over as friends can be easy for both if you both want to be friends good luck

Answer 10

maybe go " hey, how're u getting on? " or " how's the party? " ... U want a fruit punch? .... then start talking from there.. i'm sure he'll add on to ur conversation. No use practicing over the mirror cos everything's gonna be impromtu .. goodluck